Michael1974 is offline Michael1974 Post #51  October 22,2009, 10:10pm
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Really? That happened to me, too -- the system messed up by a couple of years.

Once I dated a guy I met professionally (he was one of my referral docs) and he was taller than me (5'7"). But I was curious, so I asked him how tall he was. "Tall enough," he said.
One time I was IM'g with a girl and she asked, "How tall are you?" and I answered, "I'm not.".
 
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Tall women, who would be considered short if they were men, and short men, who would be considered tall if they were women, do have "issues" and I understand.

As I mentioned, the average Roman soldier was 5 feet tall and the Romans had no problem conquering. (Of course, the Roman women were shorter. Generally, there is a height difference of a few inches between men and women.)

On the subject of my feeling sorry for women who reject shorter men, I have some additional comments. I do understand that it is considered "a cute couple" if the man is 8 or more inches taller than a woman. If the situation is reversed, it usual results in laughter, awkwardness, and is not for the sensitive. HOWEVER, if a woman is 5'3", and will consider ONLY men over 6 feet, my pity applies. If the woman is 6 feet, I can understand that a 5'3" man is not the best match, especially when swing dancing.

My late husband was not quite 5'9". He was NOT violent, he did not hit, punch, kick. (Nor do I.) He was gentle, and did not understand men who attacked women in any way under any circumstances. Domestic violence did not equate his less than tall stature. I am uncomfortable in even a moderate heel (one inch occasional max), so we were nicely matched, height wise, as well as otherwise.

Anyway, I don't care about height. Other areas are far more important, at least to me!
 
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I am 5'5.... why to lie..... truth will come out any wayz hmmm [:P]
 
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Iconography is offline Iconography Post #54  October 23,2009, 6:16am
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empress_c wrote :
The average Roman soldier was 5 feet tall.
This is not true. I believe the figure is closer to 5'6", the average height for a man during Roman times. And one Roman military treatise of the late 4th century AD placed the minimum height for a recruit at 5'10"!
 
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Wow, i feel like a giant after reading these replies!

At 6'1" barefoot, i have a HECK of a time finding guys taller than me, or even around my height, who will even consider me. Most guys i've noticed want a "smaller" girl, seemingly to boost their ego. Admittedly, i'm generally more attracted to someone taller than me so i can wear heels and still look up to someone, but even for me there's a max. I once dated a guy who was 6'10" and my neck hurt by the end of the night.

It irks me to no end to see a guy list himself as 6'4" but prefer to date girls "shorter than 5'10" or something to that effect. With the shorter girls dating the taller guys, where does that leave us tall gals???
 
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Boy has this topic been done to death!

Lying about your height is silly -- you will be caught. But at the same time, enough with this rediculous idea that short men have issues. Maybe some do -- so do some tall guys. So what?

For those women who so crave honesty in their relationships (and as near as I can tell, almost all consider that to be a requirement!), you actually might want to consider that fellow who boldly puts 5'4" for his height. He's hiding nothing, and obviously not too insecure about it! Oh, and go ahead and wear the heels. We're used to it and don't mind a bit!
 
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for the same reason that women get breast enhancement surgery.

ps: i aways list my height as one inch less than my actual, in case I hit some cold water lol
 
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MissMags wrote :
You feel sorry for me, then? I refuse to date any guy who shorter than me anymore (and maybe that's wrong of me, but tough) due to past bad experiences with those guys who are shorter and suppose to be "better protectors". I correlate "short statured men" with "domestic violence" and for darn good reason.

At 5' 10" myself, I have serious issues of looking down upon a guy, I think it's very uncomfortable for me and him in many ways. I'm not shallow because I want to feel "small" or "sheltered" by a man who is taller than me. I love to be standing next to someone with their arm around my shoulder and be able to snuggle in close and feel all warm and protected.

Believe me, there is NOTHING wrong with wanting a man taller, or to be honest. For Pete's Sake, if they can't be honest about something as easily found out as their height, what else would they potentially lie to you about?
I agree, there isn't anything wrong with you for wanting to only date taller men.

Has anyone seen that show on Bravo called "Millionaire Matchmaker"? One episode had the Matchmaker with two male millionaires behind a one-way mirror as she interviewed prospective dates for each of the guys. One guy was black, and the other one very short. 5'4" I think. The girls, who were mostly white, were all asked if they would consider dating a black guy, and all were asked if they would consider dating a short guy. Every girl said that they would date a black guy, but only one (maybe two) said that she would date a short one.

I know what some of you are thinking: The editors only showed the girls who said they would date a black guy because they didn't want anyone to appear racist. BUT: The black guy commented that he was surprised that a man being short was more of a negative than being black. I found this VERY interesting, indeed.
 
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Anytime you leave a convenience store....anyone looking knows your height.
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #60  October 26,2009, 3:25pm

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I read an article that in the year 2409, women will be .8 inches shorter, and a few pounds heavier due to evolution (no joke).

The article is in msn somewhere.

Take heart guys...in a few hundred years it'll be a more level playing field for us shorties!!
 
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