Tropicalily is offline Tropicalily Post #31  October 15,2009, 7:41am
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Wow! 5'5" is considered tall???? That's average for a woman. I'm 5'6 and I've often wondered if I'm still growing or the men that I've met lied about their height. I think it's the latter and not the former. I like to wear those three inch heels, too, which make me 5'8 or 9, If a guy is really 6 ft. tall or more, I should not be eye to eye with him, but many times it seems that I am. You can't lie about height and weight. It's something that will be apparent once you meet. I'm not a size 00 and would never try to represent myself as one. My body size is average and that's what anyone will see.
 
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alissag is offline alissag Post #32  October 15,2009, 1:04pm
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Never heard of 5' 5" being considered tall. I don't think I am tall but get told that all the time. At my height, try finding a guy that isn't intimidated by a 5' 8" girl in a pair of heels.

Personally I have never had a man lie about his height. Then again, at my height there is no possible way he could lie about being 6'

I'd chalk it up as a learning experience.
 
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Right on about the age/height and age/weight issues.
But I think these "lying issues" deserve a closer look at the roots of their insecurities. The reason that men lie about their height is that our society equates male height with power, social status and stature. Also, so many woman demand that their mates be taller than them; this burden puts the onus on men to fake their true height if they are height challenged. The same is true to women in terms of their weight. Unfortunately, weight is much more malleable than height; we can gain or lose weight a lot easier than height. Is it any wonder than on websites devoted to height increase, the vast majority of posters are male? Is it any wonder that most weight loss programs like Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig, Nutrisystem are dominated by, and even cater themselves, to women? Same goes for women-only gyms like Curves.
 
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i offer a modest figure, so they'll be more impressed when they see I'm a tad talller. Pathetic, I know.
 
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The sad truth is men lie about there height online for the simple fact that it works. Remember most of the sites are window shopper sites (wheeee) where you can filter someone out by their height. So if a guy is 5' 8'' and he puts 5'10'' on his profile he is increasing his chances of getting at least a first date by about 10 percent or so I guesstimate. I don't agree with that strategy but at the same time I don't see any difference in that and a woman using photographs from when she was thinner.
 
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W1ll wrote :
I have had a full beard and mustache since 12
I've had the same ... I can't help it, I'm part Greek. Is not disclosing it lying or is keeping my shameful little secret to myself okay? Sorry, just teasing.

Most likely he lied about his height thinking he'd get away with it and you'd just never notice ... It's the reason we all lie about anything, we think we can. If only it were that easy.
 
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I'm 5'5" also, and have dated guys who were 5'6" up to 6'2". I just wear lower heels if I'm with a not-as-tall guy. In fact, if the guy is over 6', I get a little uncomfortable craning my neck up to see him. Plus there are logistical issues with tall guys (airplane seats, dining booths, bed size ... oops! )

I'm more than happy to date interesting guys that are just a couple inches taller than me, but not if they are too slender -- they tend to look too boy-like and I am into men, not boy-toys.
 
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Short dudes are insecure. Honest 6'3" here, probably 6'4" with thick sole footwear...
 
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Insync is offline Insync Post #39  October 18,2009, 9:41am
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I met someone who overstated his height by an inch or two. I noticed it right away as I am 5' 4" . I smiled as I realized he was probably insecure about it. His great body took my mind off his height immediately. I have dated a few men who overstate their height on their profile. It is much less of an issue for me than some other things , like posted an old photo or grossly overstating their income, or saying they are widowed when they are divorced (ex wife had died, but they were divorced at the time.) Many men have told me that women state in their profiles they want a man who is 5' 10" or taller . I feel fortunate since that leaves the less taller men for me. I am not into really tall men anyway. Makes me feel weird to have a man look down at me. Most of my past relationships were with men a few inches taller than me. My ex husband was 5' 9" and he was probably the tallest.
 
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Benevolence32 wrote :
The sad truth is men lie about there height online for the simple fact that it works. Remember most of the sites are window shopper sites (wheeee) where you can filter someone out by their height. So if a guy is 5' 8'' and he puts 5'10'' on his profile he is increasing his chances of getting at least a first date by about 10 percent or so I guesstimate.
I don't remember the numbers, but it's way more than 10%, probably more like 50%-100%.
 
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