eHarmony Profile Makeover: May 2008


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Not getting any response from your matches? Your profile might need a makeover. This month, our experts helped one lucky (and anonymous) eHarmony member tweak her About Me profile! Learn step-by-step tips that could help you attract The One!
 
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NancyG is offline NancyG Post #2  May 10,2008, 5:18am
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Umm? That #5? Aren't those responses restricted to a list provided by eHarmony? How could she have given more detail and elaborated on them? There wasn't any way to give an independently-written response, at least when I took the questionnaire.



And I don't see the contradiction between "finding pleasure in simple things" and "achieving personal goals". I chose the personal goals one myself, mostly because I'd set, and met, the goal of simplifying my life, so I could have easily picked the first one as well.
 
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Hi!

I'm VERY HAPPY with my profile....simply because it's honest! Most eharmony members already know that I'll do my best to respond to any questions when they write me!

However...if you have any connections with THE GAP or some form of clothier...I could definitely use a makeover when it comes to a nicer looking suit...and definitely...a few new pairs of jeans! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif[/img]

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One of my biggest pet-peeves on reading matches' profiles is the answer to number 12. I would say 95% of guys' profiles read a variation of the following "I guess you'll have to become my best friend to find out" or "thats for my best friends to know." ARRRGH....jeez guys, it isn't asking you to give your deepest darkest secret! It's just another area for you to sell yourself and tell me something interesting!! Guys, do a lot of women also answer this way? I would implore you all to give a real answer to this question. I automatically get the feeling a guy is a smart$&% if i read something like that.
 
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katiejane,108074 wrote :
One of my biggest pet-peeves on reading matches' profiles is the answer to number 12. I would say 95% of guys' profiles read a variation of the following "I guess you'll have to become my best friend to find out" or "thats for my best friends to know." ARRRGH....jeez guys, it isn't asking you to give your deepest darkest secret! It's just another area for you to sell yourself and tell me something interesting!! Guys, do a lot of women also answer this way? I would implore you all to give a real answer to this question. I automatically get the feeling a guy is a smart$&% if i read something like that.
Yeah, actually, I see quite a few women who have answered this section with that reply. And you’re right; it’s a great way to sell yourself, if people really saw it that way. For me, it took me a few days to come up with a good answer, because it forced me to really explore myself as a person, and I enjoyed that. For me, number 12 and 13 really give me a feeling for the personality a woman has, and anyone that fails to answer those questions impartially with a “that’s for my best friends to know” shows lack of interest…
 
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I know my profile is lacking but I say it how it is. Most don't like that. My picture needs help to. But also limited on recent pictures of me or ones that I can edit out. I do have to agree with only my best friend knows. I hate that line then again I got to look at mine and see what it says also. Been on here twice. Met a great woman once and broke up. Seems like now compared to 2 years ago that this just is not working for me like it did before and it gets frusterating
 
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Well I'll be the first one to tell you that my Profile needs a make over.. I'm on 4 different sites for dating, and over the last 4 years 1 date.. My pet peeve is the no answer. You express an intrest in someone, but you geteither no answers or you recieve a "closed" message with "other" as the response.. this doesn't help.. State the reason(s) why (if possible) or select the reason that seems to fit best. It all relates back to how honest you really want to be..
 
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It's funny that they say to fill in more information. If i added anything else, i might as well type my life story. I have answered everything, and filled out alot, but yet i don't really get answers. I'm with scotty on the "closed messages" . Whats annoying to me is that you have to pick an answer and more then half the time the right answer isn't there so you pick whatever. I think when you closed a match you should be able to either pick what choices they have or type your own answer in there. When people say "other" you kinda need something explaining why or it makes no sence.
 
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Thearticle is interesting and enlightening. it brought a smile because it's like writing a resume and marketing oneself, which we all ar. I once had a great deal of info in my profile and then decided that it was overwhelming (my interests are atboth ends of the spectrum). The information in the Profile piece is constructive and as a result I will go back and review my own profile, editing it one more time.
 
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eHarmony makes it too easy to choose a few multiple choice answers and be done. After reading most profiles I don't at all have a sense of who the person is. Couple that with no photo and I just choose "close match". It's too frustrating to go through the entire: reading intro, questions and answers, and still not really have a reasonable idea what the person is like.

With effort, posting several clear photos (of just the person), filling in the boxes where written answers are permitted (as described above) and answering question 13 with lots of biographical and anecdotal info, it is possible to convey a fair amount about who you are and why you are different and interesting.
 
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