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timairborne is offline timairborne Post #1  October 7,2009, 12:59pm
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Ok, hey everyone im tim, im 20 and im in the army. I am an infantry man and am scheduled to deploy very very soon. And my question is should I be giving up on trying to form a relationship or is it really manageable. I have never had a long distance relationship and am skeptical. I am a member on eharmony so as for now i am still actively looking. But im not sure on how to progress with things, should i just look for friends that maybe at a later time start dating, or should i just look for that special someone still. Or put it on hold. any angles and views would be appreciated.
 
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Nurse22 is offline Nurse22 Post #2  October 7,2009, 8:29pm
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If you want to be with this person, then of course you should. Long distance relationships can be really difficult for a lot of people so it is important to know what you are getting into. If you know this is a person you could see yourself with for a considerable time to come then why not? Know how hard it is though and make sure before you leave to set perameters on the relationship. Since your going into the canadian forces let them know you aren't going to be able to talk much and what that means... as long as they are worth it to you then dont hesistate. Good luck!
 
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timairborne is offline timairborne Post #3  October 8,2009, 12:37pm
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im american not canadian :P but the problem is i barely know the person. and i dont know if its worth it or not yet. and on the other hand what if?
 
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That's a hard question to answer. It depends on how attracted you are to this other person. Right now I'm trying to start, at long distance, a LDR with a gentleman whom I also "barely know." He travels the world and is on the other side of it from me right now, and I can't catch up with him, geography-wise, until December. We're both in our 40s and so have a level of maturity going for us right now which we wouldn't have had, probably, in our 20s. Neither of us knows if all the trouble (and, at least on my end, a touch of anxiety) is going to turn out to be "worth it," but we can imagine that it might. And, of course, we also don't have the stresses of deployment.

You might be able to answer that question when the right match comes along for you. Meanwhile, keep all your options open. You'll have your whole life ahead of you.

Good luck in your search for someone special--and even more in your deployment. I am sure people around here (including me) will be thinking of you and your fellow soldiers.
 
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Women LOVE military men, so keep that in mind.
 
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Hi Tim!

Welcome to eHarmony Advice.

And thank you for serving our country

I wanted to share with you an awesome video about a wonderful success story for a soldier on eHarmony:
http://www.foxnews.com/video/index.h..._referrer=staf

I say go for it! I hope it works out for you - please keep us posted...and spread the word to your soldier friends who are looking for love!

Best,
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you have nothing to loose if it will work great if not perhaps next time around

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DDjr is offline DDjr Post #8  October 8,2009, 6:43pm
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Bud,

You're twenty... Don't even try it! The best that will happen is that you're frustrated and want to cheat. The worst that will happen is that you will cheat.

Don't try to think about having a serious relationship until you've really lived!
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #9  October 8,2009, 9:33pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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OP: I wouldn't in your situation.
 
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tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #10  October 9,2009, 9:32am
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
I say go for it! I hope it works out for you - please keep us posted...and spread the word to your soldier friends who are looking for love!

Best,
-Lori
Now Lori, is that an un-biased opinion?
 
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