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carolynn1234 is offline carolynn1234 Post #1  October 6,2009, 4:28am
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I am a single mom of a 22 month old and separated 1 1/2 yrs from my husband, and now just divorced. We were together for 9 yrs in total. I had one very short-lived relationship with a guy my age who had commitment issues. So aside from that I'm very new back to the dating scene.

I met a guy at a pub on the weekend and we danced all night, went out to eat afterwards and walked back to his place (I said I would go for a walk with him but that I was not going home with him). He called me a cab and we sat on the step outside until my cab came and we kissed. He was very sweet and cute and seemed like a nice guy. He told me several times how cute he thought I was and he asked me if he could take me out and before I left he asked me for my number. He is 5 years younger than me but seems mature for his age. I was a little freaked out about the age difference, not so much because of his age, but because I figured my life would be too complicated for someone his age to want to get involved with me. I never told him I'm a single mom or anything about my situation and I was really hesitant to give him my number. I know he won't call because I'm sure the way I acted was not very encouraging to him and he probably doesn't think I'm really interested in him.

So I'm wondering if it would be totally crazy of me to drop a note in his mailbox, since I know where he lives, to explain that I really did want to give him my number and hoped that he'd call but that I was hesitant because I was worried about my life being a little complicated being a single mom. I want to tell him that I had a great time and think that he's really sweet and cute and would be pretty happy if he did call me, but would understand if he didn't. On the one hand I think he might be flattered or he might think I'm totally nuts. I sort of feel like, what do I have to lose?
 
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Put down the pen, and step away from the mailbox! Yes, it would make you look a bit loony.
I would be a bit more tactful than dropping a note in the mailbox. That reeks of stalker like intentions. As a guy, I would find that creepy.
If you know what his address is, mail something. Even if he lives two blocks over, don't just put something in the mailbox.
If I were in your situation, I think the most that you can do, is to drop him a note (through the mail!) thanking him for calling the cab, and that you had a nice time the other night. Maybe slip in a subtle reminder that you gave him your number, but in case he misplaced it, give it to him again. Any more than that, and it reeks of desperation. Which is not flattering. Tread lightly here!
 
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I agree, don't put anything directly in his mailbox!

Did I understand this correctly? You actually did give him your phone number already? But you don't have his? In that case you might mail him a note (regular post, not direct deposit) BUT I wouldn't go into any explanations / justifications and DON'T mention you're a single mother.
That will sound desperate, and yes, crazy. Just tell him you had a good time and hope he'll call, and then leave it alone. Either he'll call or he won't, and all you can do after that is see what happens.

If he does call and you go out again, there will be a time to bring up issues like children, but it's a bit early for that I think.
 
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Going back to the Pub sounds reasonable..... although placing a note in his mailbox isn't a Norman Bates move either. It might be illegal to tamper with a mailbox, but trust me, if Megan Fox put a note in any of these guys mailboxes asking for an opportunity, they would have involuntary swelling and wouldn't be calling the Police for stalker protection.
 
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Dugl wrote :
Going back to the Pub sounds reasonable..... although placing a note in his mailbox isn't a Norman Bates move either. It might be illegal to tamper with a mailbox,.
After reading dugls post. I thought.. there is a possibility on leaving a note in the box ..The mailman might think it's for him..



Dugl... You're on a Megan Fox kick this week!!
 
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Ha ha. Megan Fox. That is assuming,
A. She can write
B. She knows what a mailbox is
C. She can figure out how to open the door.
D. I can comprehend anything she attempted to write.

Sorry, but lifestyles of the Hot and Brainless doesn't interest me...
 
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If you gave him your phone number, and he is interested, he will call you. If he's not, he won't

Don't go drop notes in his mailbox. That is crazy. Take this as a lesson learned: When an opportunity presents itself, take it.
 
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CaptCrunch23 wrote :
Dugl... You're on a Megan Fox kick this week!!
The restraining order aroused me.
 
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Ah, go for it. You only live once.
 
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