Hi all

What would you do if you were in these shoes??

Met a guy who is close to my age of 35.. pretty much everything I'm looking for in a guy. He is active duty military, which I come from a military family.

We met up at a local sports bar we both were familiar with, we were talking for a bit while the game was on (i more of a fan than he is) and went to dinner and did some more talking, finding out about each other and did a little dancing after that. The date seemed to last for hours.. about 6-7, where we both didn't want to go home, but at about 1am we had to because we both work early hours. He kissed me goodnight. Btw.. A Complete Gentleman throughout the night, walked me to my car, held my hand, opened doors, etc.

Two days later he called me for a second date which we planned for the next day, We went to a movie, and had dinner. We talked during dinner and learned more about each other after a movie where we were cuddling during the entire movie, yet still being "polite" about it as much as possible because we were in a family oriented movie. We again had a difficult time saying goodnight, and spent about an hour talking outside the theater where he admitted that i've been on his mind alot, and again this time around 2am we had to go home, since I had to get up at 6am and he cannot be late for work in the military.

3 days later we plan a third date for saturday night.. I found out about a free drink night happening at a local resort here, and they have a live band. We went, danced a bit and was able to talk in between live sets. We didn't have any time restrictions, and honestly I was a bit tipsy enough to let my guard down a bit. Not so much that I couldn't drive, or be in total control of my own body. It was getting to be about 1am again, and we were out in the parking lot. I initiated the drive back to my place.. I was starting to feel the alcohol a bit and I know what I wanted, he having no objections at all, and I didn't want to leave my new car I just bought at the resort. He followed me home, we had sex that night, he stayed the rest of the night, cuddling me most of the night. He noticed when I left because I couldn't sleep.

All that happened about 2 weeks ago now. He has said in subsequent emails, calls, and text messages, that he had a great time, enjoyed the times we have been out, and would like to do it again. However, he hasn't asked to see me again, even though I have asked him. I again get an email this past Saturday again expressing that he's enjoyed our time together, likes me, and wants to see me again... that he is just really busy.

I tend to give military guys a break because being active duty is such a guessing game with where you are from day to day. I've personally experienced this when in just one year I moved 7 times to different Army bases in the US. So what gives?? I mean, I've always heard my friends say if a guy doesnt contact you after 7 days he is no longer interested. He's contacted me.. but hasn't seen me... I would think someone who claims to still be interested would want to see that person. But he hasn't...

Any suggestions?

S