dc4u is offline dc4u Post #1  October 5,2009, 1:57pm
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I work with this woman for a few years now, knowing how and what she has been through in her past with her ex boyfriend... I am obviously very attracted to her in every way. I "believe" she knows how I feel about her. Aside from just bluntly saying "Let date"... How would you recommend I pursue a relationship with a good friend, fearing the ultimate feeling of being denied or told "I want to just be friends" Just wanting to see if she also feels the same way as I do about her. What can possibly can be said or put out there in a soft way to allow her to put her feelings on the table, but not really put her on the spot of being totally caught off guard. I have had times that we were alone, myself just wanting to just reach over, grab her hands and spill out the feelings and hope for the best... Your suggestions would be greatly appreciated !
 
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tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #2  October 5,2009, 2:46pm
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The best and easiest way to find out is to ask her out. Maybe for a pizza or something.
 
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tweet37 wrote :
The best and easiest way to find out is to ask her out. Maybe for a pizza or something.
Yeah...I would take things slowly though especially if she just broke up with the guy. You don't want to be "rebound" guy. Also, do you really want to start a relationship with someone you work with?? That can be a very bad thing if things don't work out.
 
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Yeah...I would take things slowly though especially if she just broke up with the guy. You don't want to be "rebound" guy. Also, do you really want to start a relationship with someone you work with?? That can be a very bad thing if things don't work out.
This could be a bad thing if it does work out, I would not want to work side by side with someone I am dating!
 
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Honestly, I have to agree with the others ...this road you want to travel is strife with potholes.

I wouldn't even try it if she works that closely with you ...way too many dangers. At best, it could only cause a very uncomfortable situation ...at worst, you'll have to quit and change jobs.
 
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CaptCrunch23 wrote :
This could be a bad thing if it does work out, I would not want to work side by side with someone I am dating!
Point well taken. Been there, done that - bad, bad idea. Learned my lesson a long, long time ago.
 
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It's been about a year I believe since she has split up with the ex and I also don't really work "side by side"... but I also am trying to change my job function there, which will place me in another department... away from her... so it wouldn't be working that close with her any longer, just more so with the same company.... We also have gone out together, such as grabbing a bite to eat... My best friend always told me... "Don't dip your pen in company ink" lol...
 
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