twpbknight is offline twpbknight Post #1  October 4,2009, 11:07pm
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So here's my sad tale that I need help with. So after almost 10 years I have been able to track down a woman that I dated when I was younger. We both enjoyed each others company, made each other laugh, all in all it was a great relationship. Unfortunately I screwed it up by not kissing her one night, then we lost track of each other (not by choice). So now we are in contact with each other again and we both admit we enjoyed each other. Sadly I found out that she is currently seeing someone for the last 3 months (after a 2year break), yet its a long distance one that will soon change when the guy moves to where she is(or so he says). We have been talking about meeting and will probably do so at the end of oct, which i'm afraid of doing. I have never stopped caring for her and don't want to mess things up with her, since its quite possible that her current relationship might not last. So my question is, how should i handle this meeting with her? Should I tell her that i still have feelings for her? or just bite my tongue and enjoy the time we will spend with each other.
 
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kevin76 is offline kevin76 Post #2  October 5,2009, 12:34pm
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twpbknight wrote :
So here's my sad tale that I need help with. So after almost 10 years I have been able to track down a woman that I dated when I was younger. We both enjoyed each others company, made each other laugh, all in all it was a great relationship. Unfortunately I screwed it up by not kissing her one night, then we lost track of each other (not by choice). So now we are in contact with each other again and we both admit we enjoyed each other. Sadly I found out that she is currently seeing someone for the last 3 months (after a 2year break), yet its a long distance one that will soon change when the guy moves to where she is(or so he says). We have been talking about meeting and will probably do so at the end of oct, which i'm afraid of doing. I have never stopped caring for her and don't want to mess things up with her, since its quite possible that her current relationship might not last. So my question is, how should i handle this meeting with her? Should I tell her that i still have feelings for her? or just bite my tongue and enjoy the time we will spend with each other.
I would tell her. Don't be overbearing or pushy about it, but let her know you're still interested. If you don't, you'll always wonder what might have been. What's the worst that could happen?
 
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You can show her that you are still interested in her without revealing your "feelings' for her ...so, I'm going with option 3, bite your tongue and enjoy the time you spend together.
 
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How about realizing that this OLD relationship is history and get on with your life?
 
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Savasana is offline Savasana Post #5  October 5,2009, 8:06pm
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I would hold off on any decision making until you actually see her again. You want to be sure the spark is still there. People change so very much; you don't want to hurt her if when you are together again there turns out to be only friendship.

That said, once you see her again and if your feelings are still there, I would definitely let her know.
 
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I would hold off on any decision making until you actually see her again. You want to be sure the spark is still there. People change so very much; you don't want to hurt her if when you are together again there turns out to be only friendship.

That said, once you see her again and if your feelings are still there, I would definitely let her know.
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