MerryMerry is offline MerryMerry Post #1  October 1,2009, 7:53pm
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I was emailing and talking with one guy quite often over the course of two weeks. He asked me out but we were both unable to make our schedules coincide. So, he said he wanted to take me out after he returned from his vacation. I agreed to meet him after his return. He went away on a week long guys hunting vacation out of cell range. (Yes, there are remote out of the way places...) Anyway, after his return we emailed one another multiple times a day for about a week. Then he just stopped emailing and there has been no contact for about ten days.

My question, should I email and ask what happened? Is that too desperate? Should I just let it go?

I am assuming he met and is now seeing someone else. I also assume he did not say anything to me just in case his current interest doesn't work out he may want to continue pursuing me. I am just curious what did happen and that is why I am entertaining the idea of asking him via email.
 
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richey is online now richey Post #2  October 2,2009, 8:15am
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Na, never assume anything. Perhaps his computer crashed. Perhaps his mail service provider dumped and lost his email and address book items? Who knows.

I would suggest sending him a text msg or making a quick call to his cell phone (sounded like you had his number) just to say hi and what's up and what u been up to and stuff like that. Make small talk. Maybe tell him, "well i was caling cuz i had some free time this upcoming friday and was interested in trying this restarant i heard about. Would you like to join me?"

or something like that. You're basically asking him out but disguising it as , "oh i discovered this thing, wanted to try it, thought maybe you'd be interested" kinda thing.

Then see how he reacts. (Actually, before you drop the "wanna see me?" question on him, pay close attention to how he reacts to your msg/call and gauge his interest level in you if you can. All else fails, drop the question and you'll find out what's going on real quick.

Good luck.
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