Cathy61 is offline Cathy61 Post #1  September 29,2009, 6:07pm
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OK, I have settled into a nice little relationship where we see each other a few times a week and it is going great. But there are days when he doesn't call me and I don't call him. This seems strange to me. Do most guys call their girlfriend everyday?

If I want a daily call, should I be calling him everyday? Just need a little insight. Don't want to overdo it and don't want to underdo it. Dating is brand new to me and very different than when I was young and a lady never called a man.
 
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I don't think that it is at all weird to not call every day.

Sometimes a day just goes by & is rather uneventful & not much to share.

What is the daily call going to signify?

As long as you communicate well & frequently I wouldn't push for too much more. Maybe call him a little bit more frequently but not everyday.
 
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Mr_Right is offline Mr_Right Post #3  September 29,2009, 6:18pm
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You're official boyfriend and girlfriend, right?

Perhaps you should make your communication requirements clear. Don't demand, but rather say something like, "I just love it when I get to hear from you every day, even if it's for just five minutes."

Most guys will get that message.
 
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I say if it is going well and you both are happy why try to fix it. You don't say how long you have been dating, but I know in the early stages of dating I don't really expect or want a daily call. Just depends on the circumstances. I think different people have different styles of communicating. Too much can be just as bad as too little.
 
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I think it's a balance issue. Personally, I like a call everyday, even if it's just to say hi and how was your day. My bf, however, hates to talk on the phone and has to do a great deal of it at work. For him, the purpose of a phone call is to share information, not to just visit. You have to find a balance between what you both want and then be happy with it. My bf and I usually talk about every other day, although there are times when we do talk everyday. Would I like to talk everyday? Absolutely! Would he? Absolutely not! Every other day works out as a pretty good compromise for us.
 
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I agree with most everyone here. It depends on how long you've been dating but it sounds like you're not officially together yet, so I don't know that I'd, personally, expect a daily phone call (or be the one making it, for that matter!). I also don't think it speaks to how interested you are in one another whatsoever.
 
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I do prefer a phone call everyday, just to say hi and let the other person know you are thinking of them! It's not so much to talk for hours. I am learning that not everyone I like is going to feel the same way I do, as all my ex-bf's have. I wouldn't read too much into it.

I would maybe say something in conversation as suggested above and see if he get's the hint
 
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It depends on the stage of the relationship. But if you are serious/regularly dating, then a call everyday is normal.

As a guy, I'd feel weird to go the whole day an not call. A quick "Hey whats up, yea that's nice, been busy, love you, bye" takes about 10 seconds....
 
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For me not talking literally everyday wouldn't be important. If we were really serious it would probably be most days....but if not everyday I wouldn't think anything of it.
 
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I don't mind not talking to my bf on the phone every day. But, we check in with each other every day, somehow - usually a combination of text messages, e-mails, and instant messages, pretty much anytime something amusing happens. I would worry about him if I didn't hear from him at all! (Because his job is dangerous, not because I'm a fretting psycho : )

There's nothing wrong with giving him a call if you have something to talk about, or even just to check in. Some guys worry that they are being pests by always being the one making the call. It always takes awhile in a new relationship to get into a routine that you're both comfortable with.
 
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