Quick Takes on Relationships with Mars/Venus Guru, John Gray

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buttrfly is offline buttrfly Post #11  October 19,2010, 1:53am
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Dear John,
 I have a question.  Without going into great detail, I have been dating this guy, I was matched with on EH.  We have been dating for 6 weeks, seeing each other couple of times each week.  We have gotten intimate, but only 2-3 times (out of dozen dates).  He has always shown great interest in me from seeking me out for the first date to cooking me lobster dinner!  so I text him yesturday while he was rushing off to work late, "What are your thoughts on us being exclusive? Or seeing others?"***He never replied back!  Nothing!  What did I do??  What is he thinking? Ugh, I dont want to seem needy, it just seems like things were going well, and I feel guilty about seeing others if he isn't.  I wanted to clarify where we stood.  Did I blow it?!
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Hi TNgal01 and buttrfly -- this is an old thread. You'll get more response if you start your own new thread for your question -- as buttrfly already did -- http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...usive-ugh.html (1.5 Months and then I asked about EXCLUSIVE! Ugh!)
 
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 ***Update*** I talked to a friend of mine, she suggested to just let him contact me. All the while I was wondering if I ever sent the last text of "I am fine with either way (exclusive or dating others, I just didnt want to be dating other and he not, I would be exclusive) I just wanted to know where he stood on the subj." When I looked at my cell act, it showed I received a text from him at 2 pm that day, and somehow I erased it before I ever read it. So I decided to brave the odds, and I text him this a.m. "Funny story, just realizing that I may have deleted a text you sent me ystrday by accident. If you sent me one, I did not get to read it." He replied that he "had a long day, he found out his son had a broke his foot on Sat. and his x did nothing about it. He was in the hospital with him (his 3 yr old son)."  we text more about the incident for a while, then I told him I knew he was busy (work), and to just call me later to talk, and let me know if I can do anything to help....
 
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I've started "seeing" a match from a website these last couple of months. Things seem to be progressing fine and dandy, I believe. We text everyday. We see each other when we can, although balancing three conflicting schedules isn't easy. I've spent the night over at his place twice and both times I had a wonderful time. We've been intimate now almost everytime we see each other. Sadly, when I am not staying the night, we only see each other for a few hours due to work. But we continue to text and see each other. The two biggest concerns of mine are : Does he like me, cuz he knows I like him ALOT; and Are we a couple or **** buddies? How do I tell? I don't know of many guys that have a girl stay over more than once and seem to bond. Nor have I heard of a guy putting in this much time for just a booty call... How do I reassure myself without asking him straight out? I know I should, and I will eventually when the timing is a tad better... but while I wait, how can I tell what his feelings MIGHT be??
 
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Ok , so here's the deal. I started conversing with a man from eharmony.We have so much in common. And he has said he has not laughed so much as with me in many years . Also said quote "he really likes me". He not I brought up the subject of co-habitation, and that he felt it would be good if I work outside the home if it gets to that point. and there are lots of employment opportunities where he is for someone in my profession. We have been getting better and better aquainted. And on New Years eve we chatted into the evening when I noticed he was looking tired and rubbing his eyes, so I said to good night when he said he was indeed tired and had a headache. he called me the next day and proceeded to tell me about going out for dinner and drinks at his favorite hangout. And  girl(24yrs old) who usually works there came in and they hung out and she "planted a big kiss on my forehead " as he put it. all the while h's telling me how cute and sexy and blah blah she is.( I neglected to mention he is 54 and I am 49). then he proceeds to recant many of the tings he has been saying all along . to the point of saying "If you DID come for a visit here and I feel like it I might just get up and leave and gomout . I asked ifnthat meant he would just leave me sittingnin a strange house in a strange state where I know no one and he said yes it could happen . so i thank him for the input  and say good bye, and allow him his space to continue his search as that was what he also stated he wanted. now today he initiates contact again as if nothing had been said  to hurt me . with only the exsplanation of  "he wasn't feeling well yesterday".  So what's all that??? and should I cut my losses and run?And no I didn't confront him about it . it hurt too much still today when he messaged me.
 
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