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Guy I've known forever comes into town on business and asks me out for dinner to catch up. Ok fine, we go out a couple of times. Doesn't put the moves on me - that's fine. One night, I get a wee bity tipsy and as he walks me to the door, I kiss him and it's like a statue--oops! I apologize next day--he says, no problem. Next trip to town, he makes me a cd with slow songs on it and puts a special song on it that he wants playing when he kisses me for the first time for "real." We slow dance, when the song comes on, he draws me close and kisses me several times - no frenching though. It was okay. Next night--we go to dinner again. When he leaves, I get kissed at door like statue again . . . what GIVES???

P.S. He rarely phones when he's back home - only text messages me.
- September 21st, 2009, 01:47 pm
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Business trip Friends with Benefits.
- September 21st, 2009, 02:00 pm
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He didn't reap any benefits yet - and now that I know that's what he's about, he SURE as heck won't!!!! Isn't very smooth for a guy past 50.

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- September 21st, 2009, 02:15 pm
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This could be a total fabrication here, but maybe it's possible he is in a LTR already. And he wants to be faithful, but in his mind, as long as he doesn't sleep with you then he has remained faithful. So, some flirtation, some kissing, some dancing, he might feel is completely harmless. Then he has a good time while he is there, and goes home guilt free.

Again, this could be completely my imagination and not what he is doing. But that was my first thought.
- September 21st, 2009, 05:59 pm
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His wife and or girlfriend doesn't like you .
- September 21st, 2009, 06:08 pm
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JongJungBu wrote :
This could be a total fabrication here, but maybe it's possible he is in a LTR already. And he wants to be faithful, but in his mind, as long as he doesn't sleep with you then he has remained faithful. So, some flirtation, some kissing, some dancing, he might feel is completely harmless. Then he has a good time while he is there, and goes home guilt free.

Again, this could be completely my imagination and not what he is doing. But that was my first thought.
From my experience, which unfortunatly is extensive! this is by far the most likely explanation.
- September 21st, 2009, 06:16 pm
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illustrator wrote :
Business trip Friends with Benefits.
I agree with illustrator. He hasn't gotten any benefits yet but he's probably hoping. You stated that he rarely calls but sends text message so I'm thinking he probably has someone back home. It's easy to sneak in text messages!
- September 21st, 2009, 06:24 pm
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JongJungBu wrote :
This could be a total fabrication here, but maybe it's possible he is in a LTR already. And he wants to be faithful, but in his mind, as long as he doesn't sleep with you then he has remained faithful. So, some flirtation, some kissing, some dancing, he might feel is completely harmless. Then he has a good time while he is there, and goes home guilt free.

Again, this could be completely my imagination and not what he is doing. But that was my first thought.
I agree. I could completely see someone behaving that like in order to rationalize it.
- September 21st, 2009, 07:02 pm
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Wendy_BBW wrote :
I agree. I could completely see someone behaving that like in order to rationalize it.
The reason I thought this is I know two guys who have done it. I criticized them for it, but they didn't listen to me. They were not my best buds or anything. Their kind of perspective on things like this...you can understand that the rest of their personality wasn't exactly in the dependable friend category.
- September 21st, 2009, 07:52 pm
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Guy I've known forever comes into town on business and asks me out for dinner to catch up. Ok fine, we go out a couple of times. Doesn't put the moves on me - that's fine. One night, I get a wee bity tipsy and as he walks me to the door, I kiss him and it's like a statue--oops! I apologize next day--he says, no problem. Next trip to town, he makes me a cd with slow songs on it and puts a special song on it that he wants playing when he kisses me for the first time for "real." We slow dance, when the song comes on, he draws me close and kisses me several times - no frenching though. It was okay. Next night--we go to dinner again. When he leaves, I get kissed at door like statue again . . . what GIVES???

P.S. He rarely phones when he's back home - only text messages me.
Why don't you just ask him what's up with it? And don't be afraid of getting the answers you seek. The truth sets us all free.
- October 20th, 2009, 02:55 pm
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