johnlittle82 is offline johnlittle82 Post #1  September 18,2009, 8:32am
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I met this really nice girl on EH and we have been dating for almost a month. During our last date we finally kissed and started making out. But few days after that I had to leave the country for a month and I told her about this a week ago. Everything went so well and both of us were having a really good time. Problem now is after our last date, she stopped talking to me. She never replied my text messages or phone calls. It has been more than a week now and I feel confused. I can't seem to figure out what went wrong.
 
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #2  September 18,2009, 2:12pm
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I would ignore her unless she reestablishes communication with you.

Probably she "poofed" on you - but I would allow more than a week, as some people do get busy, business travel, and so forth.

I would not act accusing or critical if you hear from her again, but I would not chase her either.

Odds are she is not interested in a relationship with you (though you should be aware that if she reappears at some point, it may be to exploit your availability if something else falls through.)
 
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I'm trying to think of a way to say this clearly.

You're leaving the country for a month. Did you make it clear to her that it's only one month and you want to see her again when you come back? She could be afraid that you won't want to see her anymore once the month is up. She could be afraid of long distance relationships. She could be looking for someone closer to home who's going to be here for the next month while you're out of town.

Don't pressure her to reply to you. If she does, that's good. If she doesn't, it means she's not interested anymore.
 
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I did make it clear that I'll be back after a month and she's the one who initiated to have a date before I leave. Both of us got really emotional before each other left. I found it hard to leave for a month after our last date. I just keep thinking about her.

As you guys mentioned I won't pressure her to reply or do anything else. I guess I'll have to move on if she never replies.
 
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if your going away for the services,she might get worried that you might get hurt, so might be one of the reasons or if yall went all the way, that you are not the one, she wnts. another words, "wham thank you man, she got what she wanted "sex" and you probably was not good enough for her, she wants "better"
 
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set her free, if she was meant to be the one for you, she will be back,if not, there is some one special out there for you.
 
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If you need closure, express to her how you feel and then let it go.
 
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Maybe she got scared away by the fact that you were going to be gone for a month. I would let her be if she is not responding to you. Move on.
 
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Shoulda banged her man...
 
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dubs4 wrote :
Shoulda banged her man...

A comma is required ...
 
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