Have you ever had second thoughts about someone you decided was not a good match after an initial meeting?


Reply
 
Topic Tools Search this Thread
georgia101 is offline georgia101 Post #1  September 16,2009, 7:22pm
georgia101's Avatar

Quick Study

Joined: Aug 2008

Georgia

Posts: 55

See profile

I have used internet dating sites off and on for many years, since my divorce in 2003. I have had so many first dates, or first and second dates with the same man, that I have lost count. So many times I have known within minutes that the person was not right for me. Very often, I accept second dates with someone that I think I could grow to like over time. I have fallen in love just once, and after an eight month relationship, he broke my heart with the words "I don't think we should see each other anymore". Now I'm beginning to wonder if I've not given enough of a chance to some that may have had potential, but that I didn't feel any attraction or chemistry with. It's been a long time since I've felt real attraction to someone, and I'm beginning to wonder if I ever will again. I'm trying to stay positive, as I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone. I miss the companionship, the conversation, and the special moments that two people in love share. Am I wrong in feeling that after one or two dates, you either feel it or you don't?
 
  Reply With Quote
beachgirl5 is offline beachgirl5 Post #2  September 16,2009, 8:33pm
beachgirl5's Avatar

Enthusiast

Joined: Sep 2009

Santa Barbara

Posts: 607

See profile

No, you're correct in feeling that way unless you mean settling.
 
  Reply With Quote
melman is offline melman Post #3  September 16,2009, 8:58pm
melman's Avatar

Virtuoso

Joined: Aug 2009

Posts: 2,944

See profile

I don't know. Can you really discover in two dates if you have a common interest that, over time, will bond you together?

Sounds like you're expecting more chemistry and sparks instead. That always fades. Right?
 
  Reply With Quote
p56360 is offline p56360 Post #4  September 17,2009, 12:03am
p56360's Avatar

Newbie

Joined: Feb 2008

Sioux City, IA

Posts: 15

See profile

If you are expecting chemistry and sparks, you can be certain that the right person will be someone with whom you will have great chemistry and perhaps even some sparks. Here's the catch: You might have to know the person for quite some time before the sparks ignite and the recipe for real chemistry is ready.

Go with your gut, if someone does not seem to have chemistry with you, but you enjoy your conversation nonetheless, keep on talking with them! If you see no red flags, and their company is quality, then why stop just because there is no spark? You never know when a week, a month, a year or more down the road a chain of events may light a huge fire that just had to be properly built before it could burn!

There's my two cents. Actually, two cents would be worth two cents more. Good luck!
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply


« How do I advertise this? | Ask a Dating Expert | How long do you wait? »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
Being Good Looking, does it help or hinder finding a match? Ladyjuju Dating 212 May 9,2010 6:46pm
First Match Meeting traveling 4 hrs to meet her advice anyone? AMFC3030 Dating 11 August 4,2009 10:25am
Should I close this match? Thoughts, please... goldengirl7676 Dating 18 May 18,2009 3:56pm

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“I always wanted to be some exotic avatar, sounds promising. ” –  Jenky

Join the “My Virtual Relationship or The five day first date” discussion

“I'd give him another text proposing a "date" and if no sensible response or no response at all..... give up!” –  SteveManchesterEngland

Join the “Girl asking guy for date #4, I think I blew it” discussion

“I am so sorry. That must be very frustrating for you. Is he gifted?” –  harnomygirl

Join the “Has anyone lost their mother at a young age? How did it change your life?...or did it?” discussion

“ This...” –  Simplicity-2012

Join the “Changing your "type"” discussion

“ You poor thing! Were you bad? Here's the ad. Want your hair blown back? Trojan Vibrations Commercial Neighbors - YouTube Tweet ... This is the one, though now you did make me have to watch all ... ” –  Buck

Join the “What kind of add you see on this board?” discussion

“he made his "assessment" out of choice.here's the difference... you're taking it seriously..... he's playing it as a game.As someone who has been where you're at, my advice is have some self respect ... ” –  SteveManchesterEngland

Join the “Reuniting with EX” discussion

“"I'll be back" ...and be winning!!” –  Simplicity-2012

Join the “Last Post Wins!” discussion

“hoo boy, I found a new one. This particular person put in their profile "Thank God for my beautiful face." Now if it was just mentioned once somewhere, well no big deal.... but it was mentioned in ... ” –  Freezepop

Join the “RED flags for men” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 10:46am.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0