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That would date an ugly perfect guy?
first of all, noone is perfect. and in my experience, the ugly guys can be just as selfish, self centered and arrogant as the hot ones.
- September 17th, 2009, 10:06 am
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scarlet13 wrote :
first of all, noone is perfect. and in my experience, the ugly guys can be just as selfish, self centered and arrogant as the hot ones.
+1 not to mention have major hang ups and insecurities
- September 17th, 2009, 10:34 am
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TiffanyDiamond wrote :
I would date a "not so good looking" guy even if he isn't perfect as long as he's nice to me. BTW I don't like the word ugly-beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. I have been attracted to "not so good looking" guys that I have found really sexy but they never ask me out and I don't ask guys out - not even the good looking ones.

All the same here, and I don't rate level of attractiveness solely on facial appearance anyway. It's more like a person's entire "presence" - the way they look, their scent, their demeanor, the way they communicate, the way I feel in their presence.

I really don't care for the word ugly, either, but when it comes to my mind, I'm thinking of a person's behavior or general way of being rather than their face and/or physique.
- September 17th, 2009, 10:39 am
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No,not insecure...wise!

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Me! After being left by my handsome stud of an ex husband for a younger beauty, I find I prefer the not so handsome. I value loyalty and stability the older I get. If a man has a good, secure job, treats me and my kids kind, takes me out to dinner every once in a while, goes to church with me, can carry on a conversation, he is just about perfect. I don't care so much if he is balding, short, chubby. Attraction builds over time. Maybe that sounds insecure but so be it. Beauty fades anyway. I'm sure there's others like me.
- September 17th, 2009, 10:59 am
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or, as my mom says, "noone buys a Porsche for the paint job."

good old mam.
- September 17th, 2009, 11:10 am
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photographicink wrote :
That would date an ugly perfect guy?
There are very few truly ugly people out there. Any person of any age that maintains a healthy weight and keeps their skin and teeth in good shape can be reasonably attractive, even if that person has a less than perfect face or body.
- September 17th, 2009, 11:41 am
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I am wondering if this is a trick question. The OP doesn't want to be judged on his attractiveness, but the qualities he mentions in the opposite sex are attractiveness, confidence and no past issues. There is no mention of other qualities like humor or kindness.

I agree you need to be attracted to someone, but attractiveness is not always the same from person to person. For me attractiveness is "the whole package", confidence, intellect, how you treat others and myself, humor, and yes, looks play a part.

As for past issues, I wonder does the OP not have any. Can you get through life without any?
- September 17th, 2009, 11:50 am
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Attractive women with confidence?
Sure, there's lots of women who are attractive and have confidence. But these qualities are subjective.

No past issues?
Past issues--another subjective quality, to which I'd say only if she's lived in a bubble all of her life. Now whether she chooses to live in the past and let those issues control her decisions now, well, that's an entirely different question.

Who will date an ugly guy?
Ugly guy--again, this is subjective, but if this is how you see yourself overall, it would suggest that you don't have much confidence in yourself, which wouldn't lead these women to you. When I think of ugly, I think of the overall person, not just the appearance of a person. This may or may not be what you are thinking.

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Hate to break it to you, but no one is perfect. We all have flaws, every last one of us. If a guy tells me he's perfect, I'm going to interpret that as arrogance. I'm sure this isn't how you meant this.
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- September 17th, 2009, 12:52 pm
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I think the question should be without CURRENT issues!
- September 17th, 2009, 01:21 pm
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Hmmmm...I think the OP is just joshing with us. He is probably tall, dark, and handsome....or has a personality that is so attractive, he has the confidence to start a thread like this
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- September 17th, 2009, 01:37 pm
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