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How do you go from having a prefect, no games, no drama 8 month relationship to the guy you are dating giving you the "its not you its me" talk???? I am 35 he is 37 we both have kids that get a long great. When we have the kids together we focus on them. We have our time seperate. I am confused because I know in my heart he wants to be with me.....his life crap is getting the best of him. DO I wait....give him space....be friends...WHAT???? I just do no know.
 
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What do you mean by "life carp?"

Financial worries? That does cause me to lose interest; or, perhaps I should say, causes me to have no energy or attention to maintain interest.
 
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No...not financial issues. His ex-wife cheated on him and to top it all off...if he rocks the boat she will do her best to keep him away from his son. I have never met her but aparently she is the type of woman who even though she made her choice to cheat.......she uses the child as a way to keep control over him.
 
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I am not a fan of "giving space."

A couple is together, or they are not a couple.

In my view, the one thing is not to do anything which adds additional difficulty, and the other is to engage professional help, re the child custody matter.

I would not distance myself, personally; I find that is the prelude to the end.
 
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Thanks D_Lion,

It helps to get others perspective. I am not above being friends with him. I am friends with a lot of my exes. I just know in my heart that he is making something complicated that is not complicated at all. There is nothing with having a strong woman to help and encourage you in your time of need. On the other hand I wll not be pushy like alot of other women would be! Its not my style.

When I decide to give my heart it is without condition and I have had a pretty bad past myself!!
 
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