Lacey0420 is offline Lacey0420 Post #1  September 12,2009, 5:37pm
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I am not a big fan of texting but this seems to be the way most men want to communicate. How do I gently get a man to stop texting and start call instead. Any advice or suggestions?
 
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You might mention tohim that your phone plan doesn't include texting.
 
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Just come out and say it.. no story or finding a gently way to put.. Hey I much rather speak with you than text.
 
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Don't reply to a text message at all. Ask him to call if he wants to speak.
 
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Good luck! A lot of men hate phone calls and will do whatever it takes to avoid them.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Don't reply to a text message at all. Ask him to call if he wants to speak.
I would also make it clear you aren't a fan of texting.. we men sometimes ride the short bus!
 
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My initial thought is, "What kind of phone do you have?"

I prefer texting than calling...and I'm female. I have a "text friendly" phone so it's super simple and convenient. I probably would not like texting so much with an older device.
 
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Lacey0420 wrote :
I am not a big fan of texting but this seems to be the way most men want to communicate. How do I gently get a man to stop texting and start call instead. Any advice or suggestions?
How old are you? Or rather, what age are the men you're communicating with? Under 25?
 
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Just tell them - via email or other means - that you dislike texting and prefer voice communication. Then don't respond to any texts from him.

I dislike texting, unless just confirming dates/times/arrivals, etc. "Dinner at Mom's 430 Sunday", that sort of thing. I much prefer email, then telephone. Texting is too time consuming and the little screen too difficult to read for me. Plus, the language skill required (or abused) is minimal and doesn't give me a sense of having a real conversation.
 
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melman wrote :
How old are you? Or rather, what age are the men you're communicating with? Under 25?
That was the question I had. In my age group (I'm early 50's), I find that neither men nor women really like to text and my friends and family are very verbal about that. I even had a man tell me once outright that he hated text messaging and if someone wants to talk to him they will have to call him - he refuses to even respond to text messages. I usually only use texting for my kids - they're all teenagers and they hate talking on the phone. So when I need to "talk" to them I'll just text. But for my friends we call each other. I think if you just tell him that you don't like text messaging he shouldn't be offended. I personally don't really care for text messaging either except in cases where it can't be avoided or just to confirm a meeting time or whatever. I find it impersonal.
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