freedom84 is offline freedom84 Post #1  September 11,2009, 12:43am
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I hae been chatting with a match from EH for a few days, going great. I just wonder at what point would we start talking on the phone? We are technically long distance but where he is located I have been planning on going there anyhow, but when would it be agood idea to suggest a date or a visit. I am not real sociable, that is one of my relationship weaknesses, so I would like a little guidance on when to step out of the shell and move to the next step.
 
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Well, really, the phone thing can come along pretty much any time ...you should just offer him your number and let him know you are open to other forms of communication. Let the ball be in his court whether to call or not.

As for a date/visit? Well, have you already scheduled your trip to be in his area? ...I'd say you should suggest the idea before that =P.
 
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The phone is tough especially if you have a weakness in that area. However, the last guy I dated I mentioned that I am not a big phone person (with friends we mostly just discuss plans - make it kinda quick) and he said he wasn't either. So for six months we did nothing but text. I talked to him only for a minute right before I would see him. When his schedule got overloaded I would go a good month without hearing his voice at all. Needless to say that emotional connection has never developed and it is not likely it will come from emails or texts. Also, if you don't see each other alot, each date feels like the first in a bad way - uncomfortable as if you are meeting a stranger.
 
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Hey there, just wanted to throw my 2 cents in. The best way to become more social is practice! Don't hide behind text messages. Practice practice and practice - eharmony is the perfect opportunity to get these skills. You will find they come more easily than you think. And nothing will be lost along the way, eharmony will still be here with more matches waiting!
 
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