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So, I am eating lunch with a women from class and her friend. And some how we get to talking men talking to women. The woman's friend asks me if I would give a woman extra brownie points as she says it to a woman that would approach a man. I said I would not care either way. The topic moved onto sex. Primarily if I cared about what clothes women wear. I said "No" most men don't care at all, if they look good, reasonable intelligent and if they have "ass" factor, a term my friend in high school developed, if they have all of this will go out with them. Then she asked why men don't approach women? I said " I approach women" they laughed. I told them because they are nervous then I gave them a funny example which they laughed at. Then the conversation moved onto porn, the woman's friend said she watched it with her boyfriend, I said I watched it a few times, then the conversation got into this long discussion about different types of porn/erotica. Though strangely enough all this conversation was happening outside surround by people. And even stranger the woman never mentioned her boyfriend only her Ex's. What does this mean? Or maybe I am looking to much into this? Or have become more confident? I find the conversation strange and surprising primarily because in the past I would try to hide some the things I said because I wanted to be a nice guy. Now I really don't care what anybody thinks. I also think I was in a way being tested by the friend. It seems that women are always putting out test for men and normally in the past I have failed these test because I have presented myself so passively I almost became a male feminist, but I really don't care what people think that much anymore. Has someone ever had this similar experience tell me???
 
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My experience is women are always testing,that's how they "weed out the 'losers' ". That's not my terminology but from women who I've come to know as friends and can trust.
If a woman gets 20-30-40 matches on any site she doesn't have the time to go through them all.
In your situation I don't know, maybe these two saw an oppotunity to talk freely and get some answers .
Especially, if you gave off a I don't care attitude
(which is good), they felt like,'hey what do think about this'?

The bottom line I guess is. When you can cut out through the
testing on both sides is when you meet an interesting
match.
 
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My question would be...Did you not notice eye contact? Usually if you are on a subject like that its usually women who like to tease....but if you could see a long stare or something like that a long smile in your direction....Well then yeah they were teasing...Did you ask where they were going after all that talk? You should said, "Hey do you two want to go have a drink"...Point to the closest place and say I here that place makes great martinis or margaritas....but do not let them leave!!!
 
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tamtgr wrote :
My experience is women are always testing,that's how they "weed out the 'losers' ".
Ah....hmmmm. Most of us are really not that devious actually.

Maybe the conversation was just an interesting conversation between friends who had no sexual interplay between them. Sometimes it's easier to ask a man friend something general like about clothes or porn etc when there is no real investment for him to give a pleasing answer.

A boyfriend might have to say "Oh Baby you look great in that dress, I really like it on you" just to let the woman know that he thinks she is hot, even if he really could care less about the dress, whereas a man friend could tell the truth "Most men don't care" about the apparel.

If shes interested in you as a potential date, you won't have to ask...eye contact, touching your arm, laughing a lot, playing with her hair, flirty eyes....any guy can pick up on the overt signals women give when interested.
 
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RoxyRedhead wrote :
Ah....hmmmm. Most of us are really not that devious actually.

Maybe the conversation was just an interesting conversation between friends who had no sexual interplay between them. Sometimes it's easier to ask a man friend something general like about clothes or porn etc when there is no real investment for him to give a pleasing answer.

A boyfriend might have to say "Oh Baby you look great in that dress, I really like it on you" just to let the woman know that he thinks she is hot, even if he really could care less about the dress, whereas a man friend could tell the truth "Most men don't care" about the apparel.

If shes interested in you as a potential date, you won't have to ask...eye contact, touching your arm, laughing a lot, playing with her hair, flirty eyes....any guy can pick up on the overt signals women give when interested.
Agreed!

And sometimes some of us just go with the natural flow of conversations because we're naturally curious about people, and how they think/view different things, subjects, topics, etc and find it interesting to hear and learn other people's perspectives and thoughts on things.

No testing. No ulterior motives. No... nothing... except the curiousity to learn about another person. Sometimes it's just for the pure enjoyment of the conversation at hand.
 
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