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Hey,

I am considering signing up for match.com, the FREE sites out there are terrible (plentyoffish/okcupid) and a lot of the users are fake profiles/not serious about dating whatsoever.

What do you guys think of Match after trying it out?
 
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yeahyeah223 wrote :
Hey,

I am considering signing up for match.com, the FREE sites out there are terrible (plentyoffish/okcupid) and a lot of the users are fake profiles/not serious about dating whatsoever.

What do you guys think of Match after trying it out?
I was on Match for close to 2 years and not only did I never meet any one, the site kept "matching" me with people that literally had nothing in common with what I said I wanted in my profile. I kept complaining to them via e-mail and they never, ever, ever responded to me. It's like no one is really there so no one is really reading your e-mails. Then the final time they charged my account for the next renewal period I got them on the phone and cancelled and got my money back. They actually didn't want to give me back my money but they didn't have any choice because I told them that I had been complaining about the site and how dissatisfied I was, blah, blah. So I got my money back and that was the end of it. I have used other dating services as well - no luck. I decided not to use any more dating sites or services ever again - unless they are free. The ones you pay for aren't any better than the free ones IMO. Sorry!!
 
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How old are you? Ect. If online dating sucks then do you currently pay for E-harmony now?

It matters who the person is, I am young and only 20 (male)....I know that PLENTY OF FISH is the worst dating site out there, seriously. So I am thinking of trying match or e-harmony.
 
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My experience says expect no better than a 2.5 - 5% response rate - yes, you read that correctly, only 1 in 20 to 1 in 40 of your emails will get a response. Further, don't expect more than 1 email a month from the ladies.

If you go in with any higher expectations you serve to be gravely disappointed. If you can handle those odds you'll do okay, but it is in no way a shortcut - it's actually worse than real dating, especially for men.
 
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Raw_Truth wrote :
My experience says expect no better than a 2.5 - 5% response rate - yes, you read that correctly, only 1 in 20 to 1 in 40 of your emails will get a response. Further, don't expect more than 1 email a month from the ladies.

If you go in with any higher expectations you serve to be gravely disappointed. If you can handle those odds you'll do okay, but it is in no way a shortcut - it's actually worse than real dating, especially for men.
Wow. That is messed up. It's weird, with online dating (TERRIBLE SITE) plenty of fish....I pretty much got 3 replies for 10 emails...which was a shock to me honestly.

Do women get THAT MANY MESSAGES that they actually reject guys they would say yes to in the real world?
 
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Raw_Truth wrote :
My experience says expect no better than a 2.5 - 5% response rate - yes, you read that correctly, only 1 in 20 to 1 in 40 of your emails will get a response. Further, don't expect more than 1 email a month from the ladies.

If you go in with any higher expectations you serve to be gravely disappointed. If you can handle those odds you'll do okay, but it is in no way a shortcut - it's actually worse than real dating, especially for men.

I agree with the response rate with online dating for men, even when I send well thought out messages, with eHa having an even lower rate.

I prefer Match over eHa. I have chatted with numerous and met many people through match and only went to 1 OC on eHa in 3 months. It could be my location and the considerably higher fees eHa charges vs Match. I'd recommend the other sites over eHa.
 
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Mainah64 wrote :
I agree with the response rate with online dating for men, even when I send well thought out messages, with eHa having an even lower rate.

I prefer Match over eHa. I have chatted with numerous and met many people through match and only went to 1 OC on eHa in 3 months. It could be my location and the considerably higher fees eHa charges vs Match. I'd recommend the other sites over eHa.
I am in college too, so match.com would just be a supplement for when I am bored/not meeting girls. I am so glad I can notice how lucky I am to be in college, there are opportunities EVERYWHERE. Girl sits next to me in class "hey what do you think of this professor?" anything.

So much better than dating online.....women online are less attractive in general too.
 
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yeahyeah223 wrote :
How old are you? Ect. If online dating sucks then do you currently pay for E-harmony now?

It matters who the person is, I am young and only 20 (male)....I know that PLENTY OF FISH is the worst dating site out there, seriously. So I am thinking of trying match or e-harmony.
As far as Match goes, well the jury is still out on that. I like the format the best out of any out there.

It is the best site that I have seen but you need to have a lot of patience.

When I first joined it was great but then had no luck for a loooong time. I seem to be having better luck now... but we'll see.

If I meet 3 great women in a year & a half then I cannot complain too much.

I am guessing that you are pretty young so eHarmony may be unkind...does depend on how popular the site is in your area though.
 
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yeahyeah223 wrote :
I am in college too, so match.com would just be a supplement for when I am bored/not meeting girls. I am so glad I can notice how lucky I am to be in college, there are opportunities EVERYWHERE. Girl sits next to me in class "hey what do you think of this professor?" anything.

So much better than dating online.....women online are less attractive in general too.
I disagree considerably that women online are less attractive. You might want to actually search on match to see what you will find. I think that you will find the same assortment of women on campus as you will on match in the same age group.

Are you of drinking age? If so the bars on or near campus would be the first place to go.
 
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Don't waste your time. They're not exaggerating when they say you'll get 1 response out of 40 emails you send out. And NO. It's not about your profile. IT's the system.

Since you're in college, I wonder why you're even bothering with online dating. This is the time of your life where you have everything at your fingertips-including young college girls.
Get out from behind your laptop and meet these girls in real life!!
Come on, man!
 
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