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dietpepsi is offline dietpepsi Post #11  September 8,2009, 8:21pm
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Just call him up for chat.

I've found that a 5-minute chat could save me 2-3 hours.
 
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Martini11 is offline Martini11 Post #12  September 8,2009, 8:53pm
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Thanks for your post! briefly thought about him not being a phone person but never thought anything else of it. Thanks for bringing that to my attention.

Emphasize the word "short", so he won't be afraid of a 3-hour girly-gab. If he still insists on meeting first, then I'd pass on him, as he's clearly not attuned to what you want.[/quote]
 
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Martini11 is offline Martini11 Post #13  September 8,2009, 8:57pm
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Thank you everyone for your advice. I really appreciate it

He emailed me last night and I never had the chance to write him back. I got caught up with a major project for work. I was sitting here tonight working and he sent me this text:

Hey. How's it going? Sorry if you feel like I was rushing things. It's cool if you want to talk more.

It was about 24hrs since he sent me the email about meeting for dinner. What should I make of this text? Does it really mean what it says? Texts are so impersonal.
 
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Mr_Right is offline Mr_Right Post #14  September 9,2009, 4:19am
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It means "It's cool if you want to talk more."
 
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CapnCrunch23 is offline CapnCrunch23 Post #15  September 9,2009, 4:39am

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I wouldnt read anymore into it.. It's pretty straight forward.
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GEF2 is offline GEF2 Post #16  September 11,2009, 8:50pm
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I totally agree with ZisaGirl except that I would go out with him. I think the best way to really tell if you like someone or not is to meet them in person anyway, not over the phone.
 
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melman is offline melman Post #17  September 12,2009, 3:08pm
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Martini11 wrote :
Texts are so impersonal.
And yet we have folks here who think texting is a requirement. See, everyone has their opinions.

I don't text. I have a cell phone but I rarely know where I left it, I use it so little. And I don't bother with the phone before a simple eH meeting (I don't call them "dates") unless she insists on it.

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claire09 is offline claire09 Post #18  October 29,2009, 8:46pm
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How about this. Regardless of what anyone tells you don't do anything that you don't feel comfortable doing. I am finding that the majority of men don't like the phone. They like to text, to email because they are nervous about phone conversation and women just want to get a "feel" for the guy. I say call him and ask for him to call you back to confirm the plans. If he doesn't then your suspicions may be warranted. If he does, even if you talk a little while then confirm your plans at least he understands your comfort zones.

Although it may seem trivial to men, women still need to feel safe about meeting you. For some women, hearing your voice and getting a feel for you just makes us feel more comfortable about meeting you. For me, it makes the guy more than just a picture and an email.

Not to sound sexist but women are in the vulnerable position here, why not just be accomodating to the ones who want a quick hello before you meet. Small price to pay, and it makes you look chivalrous by understanding our apprehension.
 
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melman is offline melman Post #19  October 29,2009, 8:53pm
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OK, that's two threads where you've insisted that women want to talk on the phone.

Please don't generalize. You want to talk on the phone. That's all you know.

And all men do not want to text and email. That's what pen pals do.

I have yet to meet a match who did not agree to meet when I asked. Without talking on the phone, perhaps asking another question or two through email but that's it. I want to get to a (safe) first meeting ASAP. Others have said the same thing.

p.s. I don't feel comfortable talking to a stranger on the phone. Should I take your advice and refuse to do it? See, it works both ways.
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It's not strange that he prefers meeting with no phone call first. Also not strange that you do want a phone call first. He didn't blow you off -- he gave you his phone number. And his recent text sounds like he's being sensitive to your reaction to a meeting with no call.

If you want a phone call first, and it's important to you, then do it. If it's not important, then let it go. There's no rule about these things... the 2 of you work out what you want.
 
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