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So I really really like this guy. We have the same interests and values, and I feel I can tell him anything. However, the problem is that his top priority right now is work, even though he won’t admit it. He is always busy. Not to mention the fact that he lives 2 hours away. Now, there is this other guy who lives only 30 minutes away from me. He definitely likes me more than I like him. I mean he is kind, sweet, and gives me the time of day, and maybe I will eventually like him a lot? Dates we do go on are fun, not awkward, but I am just not feeling that connection. Is this the case of “You want what you can’t have?” Should I wait for this other guy who may never come around but I think we have a future together? I don’t want to settle but I also don’t want to waste my life waiting for someone.

 
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If this first guy is too busy to be bothered and you feel no connection with the second guy who lives in closer proximity to you, my advice is to keep looking.

Don't wait because the first guy's situation may never change and you are liable to start feeling resentful and neglected.
Guy # 2- no connection- waste of emotional time.

Find a new guy! Been there.
 
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definitely keep looking. they are what they are. if you arent attracted to the other one then its best not to even go there just because he is more available
 
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Move on to guy #3 and get rid of both #1 and #2. #1 isn't that into you and why keep #2 around anyway if there is no connection?
 
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Dreamsicles wrote :
So I really really like this guy. We have the same interests and values, and I feel I can tell him anything. However, the problem is that his top priority right now is work, even though he won’t admit it. He is always busy. Not to mention the fact that he lives 2 hours away. Now, there is this other guy who lives only 30 minutes away from me. He definitely likes me more than I like him. I mean he is kind, sweet, and gives me the time of day, and maybe I will eventually like him a lot? Dates we do go on are fun, not awkward, but I am just not feeling that connection. Is this the case of “You want what you can’t have?” Should I wait for this other guy who may never come around but I think we have a future together? I don’t want to settle but I also don’t want to waste my life waiting for someone.
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Stop talking to guy 1 and give him up cold turkey, tell guy 2 politely but firmly that you don't feel that there is any chemistry but you wish him the best, and go out and find guy 3 who is into you and available.
 
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Guy #1 is not interested in you enough to make time for you and guy #2 does not float your boat and that won't change either. So it's time to find guy #3 who is both interested in you and floats your boat.
 
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Thanks everyone! I suppose I knew the right answer all along, but just couldn't admit it to myself. Sometimes you just need an outside party to tell you what you don't want to hear!
 
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