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Hi- I started dating a guy over a week ago. The first 7 days he wanted to see me everyday. He called everyday. He also said that he didn't want to rush things. I agreed. I haven't seen him in 2 days. Though he has called both days. Then this evening he calls and says, 'How much do you want to see each other while we are getting to know each other?' I said 4-5 times per week. He said he was thinking more of 2 days a week. So, what's the message? Is this him brushing me off? because I don't feel seeing each other 2 days a week is enough even in a new relationship. Please help?

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- September 2nd, 2009, 11:18 pm
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You just started dating. He realized you were going way too fast. Once or twice a week is plenty of time to get to know each other.

Four or five times a week would smother me. I do have a life of my own and would expect any guy I just started dating to have his own life as well. Even the every day calling (in my opinion) is excessive and reeks of neediness.
- September 3rd, 2009, 09:58 pm
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Your Profile says you're a male.
And you're asking us why men can't be normal????
- September 3rd, 2009, 10:16 pm
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Here's my opinion as a 39 year old woman. If I started dating a man, and told me he wanted to see me 4-5 a week after the first date of dating, I would ask him if he was insane. :-) LOL

I am busy. I go to graduate school full time. I have 3 part time jobs. I have activities at my church, such as singing in the choir, that takes a couple of weeknights away. I have adult children I want to see and hang out with , and not with him because I've only known him a week. I have other family members. I am in a sorority that meets twice a month.

Do you see what I mean? For me, 4-5 a week is completely out of the question, even after we'd known each other a while.
I have to study and do a tremendous amount of reading.

We are all adults here, and we are all busy and have very full lives. If a man wanted to see me 4-5 times a week right off the bat, it would scream "desperate, lonely, insecure!!" at me.

Two times a week is perfectly reasonable, and I think your new boyfriend realizes that. He specifically said he wants to take things slow. I don't think it's a brush-off, it's a slow-down.

Perhaps you could get some hobbies or join some church or community groups or get involved in other activities so you wouldn't be just sitting around waiting for him to take you out 4-5 times a week. :-)

Best of luck! :-)
- September 3rd, 2009, 10:42 pm
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Oops I made a mistake...I'm a 49 year old woman, not 39. :-)
- September 3rd, 2009, 10:43 pm
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Your Profile says you're a male.
And you're asking us why men can't be normal????
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Oops I made a mistake...I'm a 49 year old woman, not 39. :-)
Another mistake you made is not checking HIS Profile, or stopping to read other posts.
HE is a man.
- September 3rd, 2009, 10:53 pm
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- September 4th, 2009, 05:04 am
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meister42 wrote :
Hi- I started dating a guy over a week ago. The first 7 days he wanted to see me everyday. He called everyday. He also said that he didn't want to rush things. I agreed. I haven't seen him in 2 days. Though he has called both days. Then this evening he calls and says, 'How much do you want to see each other while we are getting to know each other?' I said 4-5 times per week. He said he was thinking more of 2 days a week. So, what's the message? Is this him brushing me off? because I don't feel seeing each other 2 days a week is enough even in a new relationship. Please help?

Signed,,why can't men be normal????
two days a week is more than enough time to get to know someone without having to start rearranging the schedue which i personally would not do.
- September 4th, 2009, 05:26 am
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Hi- I started dating a guy over a week ago. The first 7 days he wanted to see me everyday. He called everyday. He also said that he didn't want to rush things. I agreed. I haven't seen him in 2 days. Though he has called both days. Then this evening he calls and says, 'How much do you want to see each other while we are getting to know each other?' I said 4-5 times per week. He said he was thinking more of 2 days a week. So, what's the message? Is this him brushing me off? because I don't feel seeing each other 2 days a week is enough even in a new relationship. Please help?

Signed,,why can't men be normal????
Am I the only one to check OP Profiles here?
Am I the only one to read through other posts before I post?
The OP is male. Meister is a Mister.
I think he's having fun at our expense.
Geeez! I'm going cross-eyed, beating my head against a brick wall here.....
- September 4th, 2009, 07:56 am
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j0hn8andy wrote :
Am I the only one to check OP Profiles here?
Am I the only one to read through other posts before I post?
OP is male. Meister is a MisThe ter.
I think he's having fun at our expense.
Geeez! I'm going cross-eyed, beating my head against a brick wall here.....



might be OP is like us, but trapped in men's body,,,
you never know,,,,,,
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