"Come over" or "lets go for drinks"?


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yeahyeah223 is offline yeahyeah223 Post #1  September 2,2009, 8:11pm
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So I was wondering should I after getting to know a girl a little....

A) Ask her out on an actual date such as for drinks....

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B) Ask her to come over to my room for x reason...aka code for making out/sex.

I've been doing B and haven't done much dating at all cause of it. Just sex.
 
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Well, if that's working for you, just keep it up.

Wait? What's that? You actually WANT a relationship? Then I think you know the answer already.
 
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yeahyeah you crack me up! :-) LOL

Wonderwoman is right on. Depends what you want. If you want sex with no relationship, keep up the good work! (And I'm not saying anything negative about just wanting sex, it's just a choice among several choices.)

If you want a relationship, like a girlfriend, or even a FWB, "let's go for drinks" is probably a better way to go. :-)
 
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DeBrown wrote :
yeahyeah you crack me up! :-) LOL

Wonderwoman is right on. Depends what you want. If you want sex with no relationship, keep up the good work! (And I'm not saying anything negative about just wanting sex, it's just a choice among several choices.)

If you want a relationship, like a girlfriend, or even a FWB, "let's go for drinks" is probably a better way to go. :-)
Well I don't often like to have the 'see you once or twice and bye bye' sex thing. If I am having sex with a girl I'd likely want to date her.

Last week I just said "hey lets study together, come over tonight we'll study in my room"...sex. But we never went on a date after that. Just more sex.
 
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DeBrown wrote :
yeahyeah you crack me up! :-) LOL

Wonderwoman is right on. Depends what you want. If you want sex with no relationship, keep up the good work! (And I'm not saying anything negative about just wanting sex, it's just a choice among several choices.)

If you want a relationship, like a girlfriend, or even a FWB, "let's go for drinks" is probably a better way to go. :-)
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Ask yourself what it is you want. Do you want to date and get to know someone or do you just want sex?

Know thyself.
 
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well...if you already can successfully bypass the expense and time wasted in a date, then why do it? Unless you want to get to know the women you're going to get naked with first.
 
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boccabum wrote :
well...if you already can successfully bypass the expense and time wasted in a date, then why do it? Unless you want to get to know the women you're going to get naked with first.
Haha.

Well it's not that i bypass getting to know them....i do get to know them but I just tease them a lot by flirting without asking them out for lets say 2 weeks. Then I'll randomly ask them to come over to 'cook' 'watch a movie', something. Doesn't matter. And then sex.

But with these all it leads to is sex. I am thinking if I framed it more like 'i want to get to know you and date you' from the get go....i'd have a better chance of dating her than just a one/two screw.
 
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I'm thinking that maybe you want a relationship since you already know what to do to get sex without having to date a woman. If you want a relationship then you need to ask her out.
 
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TiffanyDiamond wrote :
I'm thinking that maybe you want a relationship since you already know what to do to get sex without having to date a woman. If you want a relationship then you need to ask her out.
I mean it's not hard to get sex without a relationship....men want sex...women want sex...if shes single and into me then i'll invite her over and she wouldn't say no. And if she did (it's happened) I just approach it a new way and ask her on a date.

I do want a relationship, when I see a cute girl I actually like I want to get to know her a bit...kiss her...hang out with her...have sex with her...maybe even make her my girlfriend. But not just some one night stand only-sex thing. Sex is better in a relationship too. Asking her out to drinks is what I think works best, do you consider that a date?
 
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