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RebornInFire is offline RebornInFire Post #1  August 30,2009, 11:16am
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How many women automatically close a profile out because the match indicated he travels for work? How much would you tolerate? (percentage based like 20% of the time you are out of town)

I'm up front in my profile about my travel that is required by my work (about 30%). Would you be disinclined to open a communication because 1) he is not around 100% if you did get into a relationship or 2) you feel men on the road are more likely to practice infidelity. I know a lot of women who have experienced #2.
 
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Where is this leading to?? I would venture to say that the travel that is job related is nice to have up front, but what else are you going to look at aside from that info??

Hopefully people are not that quick to close just for this reason alone.

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Where is this leading to?? I would venture to say that the travel that is job related is nice to have up front, but what else are you going to look at aside from that info??

Hopefully people are not that quick to close just for this reason alone.

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I've had women bring it up it's a "concern". Of course this is 'after' I get to the point where I can communicate with them. I've had women friends tell me my work travel is going to make relationships hard and for that reason they wouldn't date somebody like me. I'm just curious how many women think "30% travel. No way!"
 
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Well I do not know what the womans point of view may be. I am sure that it is not universal. I used to drive otr, long haul and had a very good ltr during that time. She works in international banking and is now in Sidney, Australia. We agreed up front we would not hinder each other from our jobs and what they may require. We said our good byes and she went to her latest job. I was not leaving U.S. and thats was that.
 
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i probably would not date someone that traveled that much as a part of their job. i'm all for time away from each other but it should be optional as opposed to obligatory.
 
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That sounds oddly appealing to me...lol. I seem to like my alone time quite a bit, so it would be a good way to get that without feeling that I was withdrawing. Of course we would need to coordinate our time and be flexible about making plans, but that part certainly seems doable. Being around for 70% of the time still seems like a pretty good chunk of time.
 
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I would not close because of this and would probably be more understanding because I have to do some traveling with work myself. I hate to make assumptions but I figure men are less likely to be understanding of work travel than women.

Option number 2 would not have occurred to me... I guess I am naive. I also figure if a guy is going to cheat he can do it a mile from the house as easily as 1000 miles away.

For me traveling with work has very little glamour to it. It is a succession of hotels and working extra hours away from home. In other words it is still work even if you are somewhere nice. I wouldn't penalize a guy for having to do his job. I would, however, get to know him to see if we could be flexible enough to make it work and if he was willing to make communication a priority even when apart.

Good luck, RIF. Sometimes it is tough being a road warrior!
 
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I would not close because of this and would probably be more understanding because I have to do some traveling with work myself. I hate to make assumptions but I figure men are less likely to be understanding of work travel than women.

Option number 2 would not have occurred to me... I guess I am naive. I also figure if a guy is going to cheat he can do it a mile from the house as easily as 1000 miles away.

For me traveling with work has very little glamour to it. It is a succession of hotels and working extra hours away from home. In other words it is still work even if you are somewhere nice. I wouldn't penalize a guy for having to do his job. I would, however, get to know him to see if we could be flexible enough to make it work and if he was willing to make communication a priority even when apart.

Good luck, RIF. Sometimes it is tough being a road warrior!

I like your willingness to at least talk about the travel rather than just hit close!!

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For me traveling with work has very little glamour to it. It is a succession of hotels and working extra hours away from home. In other words it is still work even if you are somewhere nice.
This is so true yet and I'm shocked anytime says "Gee, I wish I had your job". A little travel with work can be nice, especially if you aren't putting in 12 hr days on the road...but when I travel it's a succession of 12 hr days in a row and it leaves little time for fun and games. They are often flying me in the morning I have to work and out the day I finish. You have no idea of the envy I feel when I'm in the hotel lobby and there is someone sitting in a chair drinking their coffee and reading the paper.
 
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I could handle travel better than a LDR because travel at least involves coming home eventually.

I don't need 24/7 attention, and as long as he's got the same cell phone provider as I do , it's not a big deal. If a guy is going to cheat, he can cheat just as easily in an office down the street as he can on the road. It doesn't matter where he is.
 
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