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DonJohnson is offline DonJohnson Post #1  August 29,2009, 6:04pm
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My girlfriend is dating another woman. I have been with this person exclusively forsix years. Yesterday I was fine with that but the more she is not here the more I feel anger and frustration as if I am missing out because we have always done everything together. She defines herself as bi-sexual and I define myself as a straight male. I essentially feel that her happiness is important and mine as well. This situation is not normal compared to the norm in society and I believe that each couple can define their relationship as they feel. My issue is the jealousy aspect. I am not sure if I still want to have physical relations with her knowing she is satisfying another and not me.( We have not had a regular sex live for almost a year) On the other hand I am now more aware than before of our relationship. It almost seems the relationship quality is improving. The entire situation has brought us closer emotionally and she has always been honest with her wants and needs. This was one of her wants. I now find myself home alone with a whole lot of time to really find myself. I am more aware of who I am now than I have ever been. As a male, I have already been programmed to feel and act a certain way, and I am really trying to understand this experience in terms of unconditional love. Should I stay and be sad and see her when she comes home or should I go and be sad that I decided to remove her completely from my life. I already know that what I do to another I do unto myself-that's why I am choosing to love unconditionally. My ego is driving me crazy. Please help.
 
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Maybe get some professional advice or see a counselor. You need a life too you know. It is not like she has special needs or is disabled and needs a caretaker. She is good with leaving you sitting home crying! What does that tell you??
 
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Are you the cake or the frosting?? She has both.
 
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DonJohnson,

Are you saying that she asked you if she could cheat on you after 6 years and you said yes? or did you find this out after it was already going on?

Better yet, ask yourself "is this is really working for me?" Sounds to me like it's not a good situation.

Cheating is cheating, man. Only you can decide if you want to put up with it.
 
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At six years into a relationship, infidelity is just as wrong with another woman or another man. She has to make a choice, if she refuses to chose then you need to make a choice. Everyone deserves to have an honest and committed partner.
 
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Your relationship is dead.
 
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Diann1950 wrote :
At six years into a relationship, infidelity is just as wrong with another woman or another man. She has to make a choice, if she refuses to chose then you need to make a choice. Everyone deserves to have an honest and committed partner.


Well said, this sums it pretty good. Time to move on!!

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Don JohnsonYour girlfriend is no longer bi-sexual.she is bye-byetime to find another woman.
 
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Don JohnsonYour girlfriend is no longer bi-sexual. she is bye-bye Tme to find another woman.
 
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This situation is not normal compared to the norm in society and I believe that each couple can define their relationship as they feel
so, are you just striving to be more "modern" or can you really accept it? if you're angry maybe you cant and i dont see the purpose in trying to force yourself to. unless there is another reason that is more compelling than you think that you "should" you are doomed to failure in accepting it.
 
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