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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
How important is it that your potential mate keep their home neat and orderly? How much importance do you place on housecleaning?
I think keeping a clean house is important, being messy is different lol. I keep my place clean, but I have clothes tossed around my dresser....pay stubs sitting on my couch....bills scattered around my computer....pretty much my love seat is a mess with stuff.

For me it's important they at least keep it clean. I can deal with messy.
- August 28th, 2009, 08:42 am
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This issue really can become a huge problem and source of fighting between you. I once dated a guy who would come over and try to straighten up! I laughed when I read Tommy Boys comments about his brother who had to stack the dishwasher in a certain way! This guy was the same way and told me that I did it wrong! Anyway, it became a problem even dating this guy. I could not imagine living with him. We are very comfortable at home. I do a major cleaning one day over the weekend. But we live in our home and are comfortable here. If it gets messy during the week, no biggie. More important we are comfortable and happy. We get busy and I don't wan't to obsess and stress over a little disorganization or mess.
- August 28th, 2009, 08:58 am
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islandrain80 wrote :
I think keeping a clean house is important, being messy is different lol. I keep my place clean, but I have clothes tossed around my dresser....pay stubs sitting on my couch....bills scattered around my computer....pretty much my love seat is a mess with stuff.

For me it's important they at least keep it clean. I can deal with messy.
Yeah, I agree. A clean mess is OK.
- August 28th, 2009, 10:09 am
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I've never been one to make demands. That said, I also won't be ordered around, and if a man thinks June Cleaver is an alternative personality lurking somewhere within me just waiting to be ordered into action, well, heh, has he EVER got another thing coming! I have no problem with doing my part, but the second I'm ORDERED to do something is the second he ends that presumptive behavior or I'm gone.
- August 28th, 2009, 10:39 am
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Oh, and just in case there are any of my "brothers" out there reading this thread you already should know...

~ Do not liken me to my mother's back

~ If you are following the example you would know that He mended his own clothes and his own sandals

So regardless of what your culture has taught you there is no such thing as women's work. There is work, plain and simple. When we lighten the burden of others we are truly living a life of mercy and compassion.
- August 28th, 2009, 04:40 pm
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
I once had a boyfriend who washed his sheets a minimum of 3 times a week. Before meeting him, mine got washed once every couple of weeks. He made me feel like a slob, but I don't personally know anyone else who washes their sheets as often as he does.
I wonder why your ex-Monk didn't just change sheets 3X a week instead of washing the same ones 3X a week. It would have been easier on the water bill. Then again, maybe he was spending so much on water that he didn't have any money to buy 2 more sets.

But to answer your question, I'm a neat nick. I don't live with clutter or stuff all about. Everyone in my family is exactly the same way; public rooms are always visitor-ready. And, I put my money where my priorites are, thus I have a regular maid service.

But I've dated men who were quite honestly slobs at their homes. When I visited them, I was always a very polite houseguest, never uttered a word or showed by deed anything about their lack of housekeeping; that would have been just rude. Yet when they visited me at my home, they picked up and put away after themselves. I didn't tell or ask them to it, they just did it, which I must say, I did appreciate. And as the relationships moved along, more than one asked for the number of my maid service.
- August 28th, 2009, 10:55 pm
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if he wants to clean it that way fine, but don't slave over something that you personally don't agree with, if someone hurts your feelings over not cleaning in a way that satiates their obsessive compulsive tendencies, they aren't worth it, someone should love you for you and not mind if you don't want to wash sheets that often, & do them himself if its that bother some. have a spine its fine, and in time you'll either say good bye or keep his heart, but you never wasted time, because resentment builds from giving in, you're not a slave, don't wash his sheets unless he pays you like a maid, cause that's what he wants and why he hurt your feelings... good luck
- August 31st, 2009, 11:21 pm
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