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so I am seeing a new guy..who was a good friend... a guy i told about all my other relationships the good the bad....we live in two different cities.......i had a bad relationship and vented to him.. his answer was a surprise he told me to forget about that loser and opened up about how he wished i were closer and how he wanted to be with me.....we talked about it... I was open to something with him but it never came to fruition my bad releationship continued and when it got to its worst he came up last minute and we took off on a 4 day vacation in the country we had alone time but he also met my family that lived out that way..they all loved him and he was more than happy to meet them...it was the most romantic weekend i ever had..he cooked for me..we cooked together,,he cleaned he serenaded me and he danced me off my feet in anywhere....Because we are frineds my worries is that this could ruin a great freindship if it went wrong... and the distance is kinda hurting me,,,, he keeps bugging me to meet up again but it never seems to work out bad timing..its been about a month.. we keep in touch online he is a great help at helping me fing gifts for my male friends... we talked about a fall trip together and agreed to help me move some furniture ............Is this legit?would a friend come up and take advanage of a vaunerable girl and pull out all those stops just to get some???? AHHHHH the man I know is not like that...so why all these doubts???
 
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hippeechicklove wrote :
so I am seeing a new guy..who was a good friend... a guy i told about all my other relationships the good the bad....we live in two different cities.......i had a bad relationship and vented to him.. his answer was a surprise he told me to forget about that loser and opened up about how he wished i were closer and how he wanted to be with me.....we talked about it... I was open to something with him but it never came to fruition my bad releationship continued and when it got to its worst he came up last minute and we took off on a 4 day vacation in the country we had alone time but he also met my family that lived out that way..they all loved him and he was more than happy to meet them...it was the most romantic weekend i ever had..he cooked for me..we cooked together,,he cleaned he serenaded me and he danced me off my feet in anywhere....Because we are frineds my worries is that this could ruin a great freindship if it went wrong... and the distance is kinda hurting me,,,, he keeps bugging me to meet up again but it never seems to work out bad timing..its been about a month.. we keep in touch online he is a great help at helping me fing gifts for my male friends... we talked about a fall trip together and agreed to help me move some furniture ............Is this legit?would a friend come up and take advanage of a vaunerable girl and pull out all those stops just to get some???? AHHHHH the man I know is not like that...so why all these doubts???
I can tell you from experience that if this is truly a very good friend, allowing this "romance" in could very well destroy your friendship. It depends what you want...your friend or a new boyfriend/lover. On the other hand, if he is in a good place, emotionally mature, and the attraction is mutual, he could be "the one" that has been in front of your face for a while. Only you can know.

I wish you good luck!
 
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This is tough because to answer this question, you really need to know YOU and this guy.

The reason i asked how well you know this guy is because if he truly is your friend and then fell for you, he COULD be that one. But if he became your friend in hopes of one day "scoring", then the entire facade of the friendship will come unraveling apart.

Second, you need to know YOUR intentions as well. Are you seeing him in a light of love and affection, or loneliness. If you've been friends with him and realized that you've fallen for him, then this relationship will be like any other you've experienced. But, if you are looking at him because you're lonely and want someone to fill the void, you WILL destroy the relationship and use him at the same time.

So many things can go wrong, BUT if its right, I'll tell you that feeling will NEVER go away.
 
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