Some assistance please?

Ok all you experts out there...I am in need of some assistance. I am trying to re-enter the dating scene. I am a successful mid 40s female and have been divorced 21 years. I have spent the past 15+ years working on my education and career at the expense of my personal life. Now that my daughter is raised (21 years old), I find myself really missing companionship and romance. Very recently a long time friend and I had a pretty wonderful and intense relationship, but it didn't work out for a multitude of reasons. I learned from that relationship, that I want someone to share my life with.

So for the question, I am educated and successful, and for some reason this seems to be a turn off or something for men that I meet (not that I meet many). I don't know if I should not reveal my occupation or what. I am pretty easy to talk to and to get to know. In my personal life, I am pretty laid back. Does anyone have any advice on how not to "scare off" men before they have the chance to get to know me? Or have I just met mostly duds who have the be the breadwinner in a relationship?

Thanks in advance for your help!

I'd like to add:
I think the basis for the myth that men are intimidated by successful women comes from this: that successful women see men date unsuccessful women while sometimes rejecting successful women.
Therefore, as logic would have it--"if a man doesn't want to date me, a successful woman but does date a woman who needs his rescue, he must be intimidated by me".
But you've got to understand this. Men date women they're attracted to. This is the only constant. Successful or not successful. We date based on attraction.

Mess,
Learn to amplify that trait in you that makes men attracted to you. Then work on meeting men that look for that aspect. Personally, for me, self-confidence and happiness (and a nice set of legs) is the sexiest thing. Whatever "it" is, do "it" and stop concentrating on your personal success as the reason. It's simply untrue!