Newlysingle is offline Newlysingle Post #1  August 22,2009, 8:17am
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I am single after 35 yrs of marriage. I live in a rural area, not sure where to meet single men, that is why I am looking online. It seems kind of scary, I would rather meet someone through mutual friends, it just feels safer, guess I need to get with the new way of dating. I am financially and emotionally stable, I just don't know where to start. When I do get contacted by men online, I get nervous. Am I the only one who feels like this?
 
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[FONT=Arial][FONT=Arial]No, I can guarantee there are two or three other people who are just like you!
 
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Of course you're not alone. This is not different than anything else in life: dating takes courage and determination, and you make lots of mistakes. (I know I have) Just keep trying & putting "the real you" out there.
 
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Newlysingle wrote :
I am single after 35 yrs of marriage. I live in a rural area, not sure where to meet single men, that is why I am looking online. It seems kind of scary, I would rather meet someone through mutual friends, it just feels safer, guess I need to get with the new way of dating. I am financially and emotionally stable, I just don't know where to start. When I do get contacted by men online, I get nervous. Am I the only one who feels like this?
just be cautious when meeting people. if you stayed within your immediate area you would severely limiting your dating pool.
 
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I live in the stix and it is hard to find a match in person. A suggestion would be to set a wide net of say 50 miles or more. Even as a guy there have been some 'interesting' meetings. Just meet in a public place, don't give out home or work location, and use common sense.
 
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I can understand being nervous but maybe if you look at it like you're just meeting a potential new friend that could take some of the pressure off. Just be yourself, try to relax and enjoy yourself. Also definitely keep yourself safe by meeting in a public place and don't give out too much of your personal information.
 
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[quote=D_Lion;717693][FONT=Arial][FONT=Arial]No, I can guarantee there are two or three other people who are just like you!
 
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[quote=D_Lion;717693][FONT=Arial][FONT=Arial]No, I can guarantee there are two or three other people who are just like you!
 
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JoyfulVA is offline JoyfulVA Post #9  August 23,2009, 11:14am
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You definitely have company. I am a city girl who recently retired early and moved to the semi-country. I love the good life but miss the companionship a lot. I set my net pretty wide (300 miles is pretty dang wide) and am ready to consider all comers at least once (when the "all" starts to come that is). Like you, I am really nervous but think it will will calm down as we go along. They say that courage is being scared and still moving ahead - right?

Wishing you the most enjoyable journey!
 
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Rainfallgirl is offline Rainfallgirl Post #10  August 24,2009, 5:19am
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I live on a tiny tropical island and there are hardly any men here at all! I have met guys in airports and when I travel and there are the occasional males here I will date. I stick to eHA and hope for the best. eHarmony, the main site, was not very useful for me when I lived in a bigger city even.
If I were you I would fill in your profile completely (here) to show the funny and interesting person you are. I bet there are some guys out there that would be willing to move to where you live if you showed them why you love living there and what it has to offer. Maybe you are ready to move now? You could put that in your profile. I would make a very broad radius... like the entire continent, personally.
 
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