krex44jr is offline krex44jr Post #1  August 20,2009, 8:34pm
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Need advice here....I became great friends with a man who goes to the same gym as I do. We hang out (dinner, concerts, movies, baseball games, etc) . He says we are just friends. Obviously, I don't feel the same way. I would like it to be more than that. He flirts a lot with me. I've never been this close to a guy where there was not more going on than just friends. He emails me during the day, enjoys my company, and never leaves me without a long hug good bye even though we see each other daily. I've also never met a guy who hugs goodbye (unless it is a relative or someone he will not see for a while). Am I fooling myself into thinking there is somehting more here?thanks
 
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I don't know. I hope that you can find out & tell us.

The intimacy that you speak of would have me guessing too.
 
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First, some people like to get to know another person as a friend before dating or the other option maybe that he is gay. In what content did he describe you as only friends?
 
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i would be thankful for the friendship. why ruin it with "romance" lol
 
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krex44jr wrote :
Need advice here....I became great friends with a man who goes to the same gym as I do. We hang out (dinner, concerts, movies, baseball games, etc) . He says we are just friends. Obviously, I don't feel the same way. I would like it to be more than that. He flirts a lot with me. I've never been this close to a guy where there was not more going on than just friends. He emails me during the day, enjoys my company, and never leaves me without a long hug good bye even though we see each other daily. I've also never met a guy who hugs goodbye (unless it is a relative or someone he will not see for a while). Am I fooling myself into thinking there is somehting more here?thanks
I could see your confusion if he hadn't said those dreaded words "we are just friends." Even he had said what he said but did not use the word "just" I might be a little confused. But he is being very clear. I have been where you are, the flirting, the going out, the hugs, blah, blah, blah...so when a man says that, I would take him at his word. Not to say that the situation couldn't change but until it does I would not get my hopes up. Why people have to send each other mixed signals is a mystery to me! I will say that he sounds like a really cool fun friend. Don't mess it up!
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He says you are just friends. The flirting is probably just you seeing more than what i really there.
 
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Does he have a girlfriend? There are guys who hug everyone, are very flirty and affectionate. If he were interested in you romantically and physically, trust me , he would have made his move. He may be into a different type of (wo) man?
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Need advice here....I became great friends with a man who goes to the same gym as I do. We hang out (dinner, concerts, movies, baseball games, etc) . He says we are just friends. Obviously, I don't feel the same way. I would like it to be more than that. He flirts a lot with me. I've never been this close to a guy where there was not more going on than just friends. He emails me during the day, enjoys my company, and never leaves me without a long hug good bye even though we see each other daily. I've also never met a guy who hugs goodbye (unless it is a relative or someone he will not see for a while). Am I fooling myself into thinking there is somehting more here?thanks
 
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I don't feel we can have enough good freinds. And your far from alone with wanting a freindship to be different. I just suggest you enjoy it for what it is. Don't expect it to change, deal with any feelings of jelousey. Oh, date others. That'll sort out any latent feelings from the guy.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #9  August 22,2009, 12:26am
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You're interested in him romantically....but he says he only wants to be friends, yet flirts with you a lot and gives you long hugs goodbye? He sounds like an a-hole to me, just getting off at your emotional expense.
 
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