lh is offline lh Post #1  August 20,2009, 6:23pm
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I have been on match now for 4 months. I met a nice guy but he does not want to be exclusive. I am just not getting any responses. I have made several winks and I have e-mailed a few myself but no return. Kinda embarrassing. I am not a barbie doll but I have been told I clean up well. I wish if there is a male on here that can go on match and look at my profile and let me know is it my pics. Am I not good looking enough , my profile maybe . I just would like to know from a mans point of view.
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Woodd is offline Woodd Post #2  August 20,2009, 9:38pm
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Unless you have been on a few dates, you can't demand exclusivity.

Here is what I think the guy thought:
I've been talking to this chick on match for a few weeks, all of a sudden she wants an exclusive relationship. I have not even met her in person and she is already making future plans for us? RUN!
 
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If you find out what your're doing wrong, I'd like to know, too. I've e-mailed several and smiled at even more and still no response after several weeks. I also am not a "Barbie" doll but I am not unattractive. I feel my profile is not overbearing or stating that I am expecting too much, but simply stating what I am looking for in a companion. Hopefully, there is a smart guy out there who willl see me for who I could be to him and follow up.
 
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lh is offline lh Post #4  August 21,2009, 3:39am
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We have been seeing each other since May. Usually once a week. He plain out told me he does not want a exclusive relationship. I except that. But I want to know from a male point of view why I am not getting any other responses. My Profile is on match. Under user name LMH650.
 
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I've never been on match, but I have found that online dating is a numbers game. You really have to spread your responses out in a major way to get responses. You have no idea whats on the other end. They "could" not find you attractive. But they also "could" be seeing someone else. They "could" have taken a break from dating. They "could" have had their computer blow up. They "could" have a family emergency. Anything. These "excuses" number more than the reasons to actually respond and very few of those excuses are because of you.

The only thing I can suggest is to not give up and keep your chin up. Try other dating sites. And the number one thing, DON'T TAKE IT PERSONALLY.
 
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I looked at your profile...
It seems OK. Pictures are good and seem to be an honest representation (meaning you're not trying to hide anything). It would be unfair of any of us to judge your profile because everything is so subjective. From your interests to your pictures to where you live. You're looking for that needle in a haystack and that simply is almost impossible to do.
I'd not put so much faith in thinking you'll find someone special in online dating. It's a strategy best used in combination to socializing and meeting people out in the real world-where someone can connect with you eye-to-eye. Also, don't take rejection online personally. Especially if you think it's because of your looks.
As a guy, when I was online, I was rejected by at least 95% of my matches (that's by hundreds of women, mind you) yet I go out any day of the week and when I apply myself, can meet a gal and get a date in no time.
So just keep trying here, there, and everywhere, and when you meet a guy that wants to date you, enjoy the date itself without worrying if he wants to be exclusive or not.
 
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