He has divorce debt, what do I do?


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Mainah64 is offline Mainah64 Post #21  August 22,2009, 2:30pm
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[quote=D_Lion;717734]You know, I get your issues.
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liquid_steel is offline liquid_steel Post #22  July 6,2010, 3:54pm

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You've sound reason to be concerned about his debt, particularly since it connects to his recent divorce. Part of packing the baggage of a prior relationship is dealing with the financial issues. Resolving financial issues takes time (working two jobs to pay the debts also takes time). How much time does that leave to truly resolve a relationship after a divorce...and then to add to that, truly care for a new relationship? If you don't mind compensating for both his unfinished personal business (bag-packing) and his financial liability (alarming debt) to participate in a relationship, then by all means, continue. However, I suspect you bring up this concern of yours because you prefer otherwise. You're concern is VERY reasonable! Love is no substitute for wisdom.
 
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liquid_steel wrote :
You've sound reason to be concerned about his debt, particularly since it connects to his recent divorce. Part of packing the baggage of a prior relationship is dealing with the financial issues. Resolving financial issues takes time (working two jobs to pay the debts also takes time). How much time does that leave to truly resolve a relationship after a divorce...and then to add to that, truly care for a new relationship? If you don't mind compensating for both his unfinished personal business (bag-packing) and his financial liability (alarming debt) to participate in a relationship, then by all means, continue. However, I suspect you bring up this concern of yours because you prefer otherwise. You're concern is VERY reasonable! Love is no substitute for wisdom.
Uh, fyi, this thread originated nearly a year ago. I think the OP has moved on to someone who can provide more of the sumpin-sumpin she was looking for.
 
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(resisting doing ex-bashing) aaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh!

Looking back someone wanted a "finished product" to take her away (from the "place" she was) and live "happily ever after"

We all have and will encounter problems.
The test is not in what problems you have, but how you deal with them.
Be ready to face them together unafraid, or make excuses / place blame and run.

If one does not have the assets to facilitate the life they want, not dating someone else for not having those assets is just a lame excuse for one's inability.

Are you wanting "him" or what he can do for you?
 
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Are you wanting "him" or what he can do for you?
I wouldn't wait for a response. This thread was posted almost a year ago and the OP seems to have moved on long ago....
 
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hankscorpio is offline hankscorpio Post #26  July 20,2010, 5:20am

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punkin425331 wrote :
I recently met a guy who became officially divorced about 6 months ago. In casual discussion, I have learned that he works two jobs to support a first and second mortgage from the house he ended keeping as a result of his divorce. He also has a roommate and still needs to work the two jobs to make ends meet. Now he has asked me out on a date. However, I feel a bit uncomfortable going out on a date with this guy knowing he is working two jobs to make ends meet. Sure, I can offer to pay my way, but geez, we haven't even began dating. A girl likes to be courted ya know. I mean what if we end up really liking eachother, then I feel like I am having to "pay" the price for his previous marriage in the form of him being in debt and having two mortgages to pay. I am confused, but think I know the answer here. What do you guys think?
So are you looking for a relationship with a man, or a relationship with a financial situation?
 
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neardc wrote :
I wouldn't wait for a response. This thread was posted almost a year ago and the OP seems to have moved on long ago....
Question is rhetorical non specific to anyone who is confronted by similar situation
 
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