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I went on a first date with a guy I met online and everything went well. The next day I emailed him, thanking him for a such a nice time and he asked for a second date.

Due to my schedule the second date will be in two weeks. My question is do we still email each other between now and the next date or just show up for the second date. I don't want to come across as too eager. Is it odd that I would like to hear from him before we meet up again?
 
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I would never email a guy a "thank you" for a date. You thank him when you say goodbye. thats enough. as far as anything else inbetween i would seriously wonder if he did not initiate communication. i wouldnt do it.

just out of curiosity did you contact him first?


 
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No. He contacted me first. What is wrong in telling a guy that you had a nice time?
 
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it could be construed as showing too much interest too soon. if you told him when you parted ways (which I hope you did) and then you email him to tell him again? too much imo


 
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ChiqueNfun wrote :
No. He contacted me first. What is wrong in telling a guy that you had a nice time?
NOTHING AT ALL! In fact, it's rude not to. You might have said it while you said goodbye but just because you took the time to be considerate and email him a thank you doesn't mean he'll take advantage of you or have his ego inflate. You did the right thing.
As for keeping communication open? Sure. Why not? Sending him a quick note here and there is fine and shows your interest. This posturing and game playing as posted earlier is simply negativity.
 
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ok.I get it. Let him do more of the chasing....
 
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ok.I get it. Let him do more of the chasing....
yeah. if you like him romantically. if i want to guy bud someone i will call and/or email sometimes. still not even that much though.
 
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Good to get different opinions on this.
 
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ChiqueNfun wrote :
Good to get different opinions on this.
if you want lots of opinions you came to the right place
 
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I would not show up anywhere without firming things up closer to the date. Sending a polite thank you is fine.
I wouldn't get antsy and start emailing, questioning, etc.
Let him contact you closer to the date to confirm, if he doesn't, just let go, but definately don't just show up.
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I went on a first date with a guy I met online and everything went well. The next day I emailed him, thanking him for a such a nice time and he asked for a second date.
Due to my schedule the second date will be in two weeks. My question is do we still email each other between now and the next date or just show up for the second date. I don't want to come across as too eager. Is it odd that I would like to hear from him before we meet up again?
 
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