happyquestion is offline happyquestion Post #1  August 18,2009, 7:49pm
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Hi great people, you guys on this forum are amazing, i learnt so much from many thought provoking thread in the past months or so since i've been here.

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Have you ever experienced a breakup, after x number of months, years, something brought the relationship back, and you are happily ever after? How long was the separation period and how did you get back, what part of what's not working in the previous relationship had to be fixed before you two can enjoy the re-grouping?
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Personally i have never regrouped with my ex's although a few stayed in distant friendship. I'm currently going through a breakup, perhaps I'm trying to hear some happy stories to grab onto hope but interesting to learn of other's experience of relationship breakup & reengage.
 
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Mainah64 is offline Mainah64 Post #2  August 18,2009, 9:15pm
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It's never happened to me, but second chances can and do happen successfully ...about 3% of the time ...not a percentage you want to pin your hopes and dreams on.

There are far more barriers to it happening than not ...people can't let go of their past ...pride ...whatever it was that caused the breakup in the first place not being corrected (or correctable) ...the driving force being guilt, not love ...ect. It's an uphill battle from the get-go and, frankly, people in today's society rarely have the maturity it truly takes to make the climb.

You probably aren't going to find (m)any success stories here because ...uh, it's a forum dedicated to being single and dating. If there were any success stories, those people probably wouldn't be here.
 
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Sorry to hear of your situation. Agree with other post, low percentage of successful reunions.

A" time out to think" in the beginning is quite different from when things are dragged out and every resuscitation option has been attempted.

Try to just let go for a while if it's early on and he wants out. If he misses you, he'll come back, if you cling and he doesn't want to hurt you, you will watch a slow painful death, rather than a get-it-over-with and move on end.
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Hi great people, you guys on this forum are amazing, i learnt so much from many thought provoking thread in the past months or so since i've been here.
Here is a new question ---
Have you ever experienced a breakup, after x number of months, years, something brought the relationship back, and you are happily ever after? How long was the separation period and how did you get back, what part of what's not working in the previous relationship had to be fixed before you two can enjoy the re-grouping
Personally i have never regrouped with my ex's although a few stayed in distant friendship. I'm currently going through a breakup, perhaps I'm trying to hear some happy stories to grab onto hope but interesting to learn of other's experience of relationship breakup & reengage.
 
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I know of only one success story about people breaking up and getting back together. However the important part here is that they broke up mutually not because the relationship was bad, but because the timing in both their lives was bad in terms of school and work and moving and so on. They got back together a year later and are happily married today.

As for myself, I have tried this once or twice and discovered that a break up is called a break up because things get broken - trust, respect, etc. The old problems spring up pretty fast and on top of the old you have the new problems of lost trust, respect, regard, etc. Whatever ease that you felt around each other before is gone. As the old saying goes, you just can't go back.

I've read your other posts about your relationship and I truly feel for you. However the very best thing that you can do for yourself right now is to let it go, stop hoping and start moving on. Allow yourself to step away from this and start healing. I promise you that even in just a few months you will see her and what happened with her with very different eyes.
 
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I had a best friend and she and I used to talk about some of her relationships. I'd tell her she was in Act IV. And sure enough she's take the guy back half a dozen times, and then finally be willing to face "The Famous Final Scene".
 
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I know of two couples who went through something like this ... in both scenarios the man wanted more from the relationship than the woman. Then there was a break of 6-24 months and both couples are 20+ years into their marriages today.

Me personally - no. If the relationship is over, it's over.
 
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happyquestion wrote :

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Have you ever experienced a breakup, after x number of months, years, something brought the relationship back, and you are happily ever after? How long was the separation period and how did you get back, what part of what's not working in the previous relationship had to be fixed before you two can enjoy the re-grouping?
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It happened once with me.

We'd been together 3 months, broke up 2 weeks, got back together. He became my second husband. We were happily ever after 15 years till he died.

But I've been in both your other threads, and I don't think it's going to happen that way for you. In fact, Happy, if she came crawling back on her knees to you, I would not give it another chance. Not unless you're a masochist.

The circumstances in my case were far removed from those in yours.
 
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