Communication-how important is it?


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Jojo7 is offline Jojo7 Post #1  August 15,2009, 8:04pm
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I have posted before that I met a guy online. He likes very much but then he seems not to know how to communicate or deal with a lady..lol

He stays online for a very long time to wait for me to come online (we have time difference since we live in two different countries).
So after my work, I come online and we chat together for more than an hour. I sent him an email one time telling him that if we couldn't meet online for any reason (which happened many times), we could keep in touch by email./text..just to let me know how are you. I am the one who always text him telling him how i am and he replies back but he has never initiated to text me first to say anything. To be honest he did text me only to say that he is online but other than this, he doesn't say anything else. Anyhow I told him to text me once in a while just to let me know his news are...but he never does! Is that a signal that he wants to do what he wants to do or he is just clueless of how to communicate with a lady...I am confused!
 
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Hi there. I guess it would be best if you ask him about it, since you are both chatting and have a connection to each other either online or by phone. You could ask him if he had a previous relationships, may be he is too shy because you are the first person to be close with. It's understandable, also he may not be too experienced dater, some are very fast, others require more time. I dont believe that he is playing games, but you are free to ask him, hopefuly he would answer, won't decline the answer for your question. Finally if you decide to meet each other, you'll get the answer then. Good luck to you!
 
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gr8guy is offline gr8guy Post #3  August 15,2009, 10:20pm
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You could try communicating with him less and see what happens. If he says nothing then he's not that interested.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #4  August 16,2009, 10:24am
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It could be that he can't type very well and so does not like e-mail or texting.
 
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Ms666 is offline Ms666 Post #5  August 17,2009, 6:48am
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His wife probably checks his text messages.
 
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meri75 is offline meri75 Post #6  August 17,2009, 1:18pm
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Communication is very important. That said, I don't consider TXTing or emails to really be communication. They are just quick and convenient. I actually hate it when my friends email me asking for my 'news'. What exactly am I meant to say? Often what I write looks totally blah blah blah, because there is little expression there.

It seems to me that he prefers to communicate with you when you are both online - you wrote he waits a long time for you to come online. Do you call each other?
 
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Jojo7 is offline Jojo7 Post #7  August 29,2009, 8:56pm
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Yes we call each other online..but we rarely talk online. He seems intersted in me but yet he doesn't take the correct steps in communicating properly with me which I consider weird.
 
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CharlieV1 is offline CharlieV1 Post #8  August 29,2009, 9:41pm
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in my case it would just be inexperience like another poster said if he hasn't been in many relationships. just clueless as how to proceed.

You have a need for him to act a certain way. Take baby steps coaching him. That is also part of getting to know each other finding out what you both like. He may have the similar concerns about you.

For me if I have a blah day where to start in describing it. If you know parts about his life like people you could ask about them. Co workers. family , pets . if he opens up he may send you messages about them as things come up. be patient if he likes you and just needs coaching. If there is pressure for him to do what you want he may shut down if not ready.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #9  August 30,2009, 12:15am
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Ms666 wrote :
His wife probably checks his text messages.
Good one.

My own thought is: 2 different countries = no way in he11 it's going to work.
 
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brneyedangel is offline brneyedangel Post #10  August 30,2009, 8:20am
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Ms666 wrote :
His wife probably checks his text messages.
or is actually logged in under his name...
 
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