FRUSTRATED AND HURT

First of all I am actually pleased with eharmony and the woman I have met and enjoyed the company of! I agree if there isn't a connection between both parties after the first or second dates both people should move on! Plus I prefer this to anyone my family or friends have set me up with!

Here's my issue....at this point! I become a paid member in April 09, and within a week after emailing four woman one woman and decide to meet. She reveals she broke up with her fiance and still has feelings for him! She goes back to him after another date and a lot of time spent on the phone!

In June I connect with a woman and really think...feel we have a connection. She tells me she is three and a half months from being divorced under California's civil code and understands if I want to move on! She seemed from email and phone conversations to be emotionally positive she wanted to date! For three weeks until 5 July everything was going great, and she tells me she's feeling like she's not ready for a relationship! She tells me she'll contact me after her divorce is final! Two days later she introduces me to her 22 month old son and sister! She is talking about our future! Two days ago...she took her husband back!!!!!!!!!!!

What am I doing???? Is it me! Did I unfortuantely meet and connect with two women who probably shouldn't have been on eharmony?? Maybe something more adult and short term for them??? I waited 8 months after my divorce and made sure my daughter adjusted. I thought I was ready and wanted to find a special woman, but this is throwing me off! I was in a relationship with my ex-wife for 7 years...so to say I'm out of practice is somewhat true, but I can communicate with almost anyone!

Any advice or guidance is appreciated! Thank you.