CARL45 is offline CARL45 Post #1  August 14,2009, 8:24pm
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I still have some what of a fear of approaching women, but over the past few weeks I have started testing the waters. I would go out to places and see if I could start a conversation with a women. To mu surprise in most cases it worked. I talked to women that worked in sales, the waitress at the restaurant. I now starting to find out that if you approach a women in a positive mood your chances are higher of a successful outcome and also its important to have something interesting to talk about. But I am surprised by how easy it is. I don't get into full on conversations, but I just make simple comments or little observations. In most cases its not as bad as I thought. Women that work as waitress you generally have to be careful of because you don't want to be charged with sexual harassment. I not to be arrogant am kind of proud of myself. What do you think?
 
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It is so complicated, ya'll, and it doesn't even have to be.

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That's how you start building confidence.
 
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neardc is offline neardc Post #3  August 14,2009, 9:57pm
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Way to go! Good for you; keep it up!

Thanks for sharing your story, too. I bet it will give some other folks here the idea to try the same thing.
 
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send some of that confidence my way please
 
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happyquestion is offline happyquestion Post #5  August 15,2009, 11:28am
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Great start, looks like you've already overcame your hurdle, sharing your success stories will inspire others to overcome the fear of rejection as well.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #6  August 15,2009, 11:42am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Yes....good start. Now move on to talking to women who aren't paid to be nice to you (e.g. waitresses, salespeople).
 
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double post...how'd I do that?
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CARL45 wrote :
I still have some what of a fear of approaching women, but over the past few weeks I have started testing the waters. I would go out to places and see if I could start a conversation with a women. To mu surprise in most cases it worked. I talked to women that worked in sales, the waitress at the restaurant. I now starting to find out that if you approach a women in a positive mood your chances are higher of a successful outcome and also its important to have something interesting to talk about. But I am surprised by how easy it is. I don't get into full on conversations, but I just make simple comments or little observations. In most cases its not as bad as I thought. Women that work as waitress you generally have to be careful of because you don't want to be charged with sexual harassment. I not to be arrogant am kind of proud of myself. What do you think?
Good for you! I know it generally makes my day when someone takes the time and makes the effort to chat a bit.

The power is heady, though. Be careful or pretty soon you'll find yourself insisting that your fellow elevator travelers join you in a rousing chorus of: My baloney has a first name. It's O-S-C-A-R. My baloney has a second name....

Not that that's ever actually happened, of course.
 
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Ms666 is offline Ms666 Post #9  August 17,2009, 10:36am
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Even as a single gal I get annoyed by customers trying to chat me up while I'm working. It's fine for guys to practice their social skills I guess, but please do remember it can get to be a pain in the behind for those of us who work with the public.
 
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Dafearon is offline Dafearon Post #10  August 17,2009, 11:49am
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You're doing great. Let me add another experiment for you. Mass Transit. Here is a really good opportunity if you do it right. You're stuck on a train or a bus together. If you catch someone's eye, smile at them. I tried it a couple times, and it does work wonders for you. From there, you can start conversations if you like. Its WAY better than a bar, and at the same time, unexpected.
 
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