Getting out there

.....I think the problem is I don't have much self-confidence where relationships are concerned. I am a full-figured women and I've convinced myself that I could never find anyone. I am presently on a diet and exercise program so hopefully soon I will be thinner. I tend to be a little shy in social settings and I am told I don't smile much. I don't mean to look like I'm a mean person (because I'm not), I just think that is the way I look. If someone (a male) looks at me, I tend to just look away instead of saying hello.

I could have written this post myself.

First thing - I am a full-figured woman myself. You should go outside and take a look at all of the full-figured women walking down the street holding hands with great looking men. If you want to diet and exercise go ahead and do that - for your health. But don't ever think that you can't get a man because you are full-figured. Work on your self-confidence and the thing about smiling - that can make a world of difference. Hold your head up when you walk....and smile - it will become a habit. I have been told before that I appear unapproachable because I tend to be very shy as well and have a hard time smiling and looking strangers in the eye when I am walking down the street. You have to have a pleasant look on your face in order for people to want to approach you.


Most of my friends are married with children or otherwise involved so I really don't have anybody to go anywhere with and I am afraid to do things alone. How do I get the courage to change and get out in the world and start living. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.

Kate

I would suggest smiling more often, having a more optimistic attitude, hitting the gym, and going out there and meeting men.

For the most part, they don't come to you, so you have to go out and meet them.

Hi. I am a 48 year old woman, who is fairly intelligent, I have a good job, I own my own home and I have a good family, but what I don't have is someone to share my life with. I was in a relationship for 9 years and I broke it off because I finally realized it wasn't going anywhere. I've been in a few other relationships over the years that also ended. I haven't been in a relationship in a very long time. I think the problem is I don't have much self-confidence where relationships are concerned. I am a full-figured women and I've convinced myself that I could never find anyone. I am presently on a diet and exercise program so hopefully soon I will be thinner. I tend to be a little shy in social settings and I am told I don't smile much. I don't mean to look like I'm a mean person (because I'm not), I just think that is the way I look. If someone (a male) looks at me, I tend to just look away instead of saying hello. Most of my friends are married with children or otherwise involved so I really don't have anybody to go anywhere with and I am afraid to do things alone. How do I get the courage to change and get out in the world and start living. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.

Kate

I wouldnt worry about (nor would I recommend) saying hi to men. Think happy thoughts. It comes across.

As far as not getting out, that is just something that you have to start doing. Step outside of your comfort level. Start small if you need to, but the most important thing is to just start doing stuff. Dont be afraid to make a mistake.