jayadorable is offline jayadorable Post #1  August 11,2009, 3:30pm
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I been dating this girl going on three months, and I'm really starting to find out alot of things about her. She's bi-sexual, in which i never been with one before, and things that her x been telling about her, bad things. I can't believe what he says about her and at the same time I can't believe what she says. Also i dont know if I can have a relationship with a bi-sexual woman. I like her, and we both told each other that we love each other. What do i do? i never been in this kind of situation.
 
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neardc is offline neardc Post #2  August 11,2009, 6:14pm
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It may be that her sexual orientation really is bisexual. Or (especially if she is young) it may just be that she has engaged in some sexual exploration that involved other women and has no further interest. Or, she may still be in a process of figuring out her sexual orientation... This is something that she has to figure out herself.

That being said, it would seem that there are some trust and communication issues in the relationship. With respect to the lack of trust, that can be because she has truly given you reasons to distrust her, or because of your own insecurities about the relationship (or a combination, of course...). Either way, after three months together, you should be able to discuss difficult issues with each other if it is in fact a mature, adult relationship... Perhaps it's time to do that?
 
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If you don't like the fact that she's bisexual, talk to her about it. Communication on an issue like this is extremely important. Tell her why you don't want to date a bisexual woman and maybe she can clear some things up for you. Maybe not, either way you need to find out before continuing much further, as it sounds like you're really in a tough spot on this one.

Also, it sounds like trust is an issue with her. You need to ask yourself if you like her enough to continue to date her if you can't trust her.
 
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Well first I would ask myself why I am listening to her X, not that you shouldn't but if there is malicious intent there then he may be embelishing a bit. You may want to seek council outside of him, try her best friend or, better yet, ask her, find out if there is truth behind it.

As far as her sexuality Satsirosu is right, you need to talk to her about it, tell her your fears, if her feelings for you are genuine she will be open to talk about it, but you have to be ready for answers you don't really want to hear. This seems as if it will be a test for your relationship, a test that can make or break it and only through communication will it be passed or failed.
 
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Sounds like you have some trust issues with this woman. I'd say it's time to pull back and reevaluate your relationship with her.
 
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Mr_Right wrote :
Sounds like you have some trust issues with this woman. I'd say it's time to pull back and reevaluate your relationship with her.
You don't say!

OP,
You love woman you don't trust and barely know?

I don't think her sexuality is the issue here. How about you get to know each other better, so that you do know whom to believe before you declare your love for her next time.

Good Luck!
 
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Mainah64 is offline Mainah64 Post #7  August 12,2009, 2:31pm
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Can you trust her with being faithful and agree on sexual activities? Sounds like a world of trouble in the long run with a bunch of short term fun.

She might not be truly bisexual. Maybe she has a very healthy appetite and occasionally needs a little snack?
 
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Mainah64 wrote :
Can you trust her with being faithful and agree on sexual activities? Sounds like a world of trouble in the long run with a bunch of short term fun.

She might not be truly bisexual. Maybe she has a very healthy appetite and occasionally needs a little snack?
I hear Brazilian nuts can be very satisfying and nutritious as a snack!
I can believe I just said that! Get me out of here, pleeeaaase!!!!
 
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I hear Brazilian nuts can be very satisfying and nutritious as a snack!
I can believe I just said that! Get me out of here, pleeeaaase!!!!
LOL

Do you roast your nuts before cracking them?


You are too far gone to ever recover. Just sit tight and revel in the debauchery that is your mind.
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DDjr is offline DDjr Post #10  August 13,2009, 6:16pm
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jay,

As indicated above "bi-sex-ual" may just mean "experimentation" which is much more common in women than in men.

However, if you plan to continue a relationship with her, I would have a long talk with her about her childhood.
 
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