tmay is offline tmay Post #1  August 10,2009, 8:39am
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Hello Dating gurus,
I have a situation that I would appreciate some advice. There is a special man in my life who I've been strictly friends with for a long time up until the past 2 months. In the past couple months we realized there was a mutual attraction and we became more romantically involved. Recently, I asked him how he feels about this new development in our friendship and he said he has been thinking about it, loves it, and is taking it seriously. I feel the same and we expressed how we feel about each other. The challenge is that he is in a career that has opened a dream opportunity in the north east. He asked me if I would come and see him and stated that he will make time for me when I do visit. I am excited about this stage in our relationship. Should we have discussed more? Should I ask more questions? I really believe in timing and pacing my questions and feelings. He asked me if that was my only question, it seemed as though there was more he wanted to say or answer. I felt that is the most I wanted to ask. Need to words of wisdom!!!
 
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I personally don't know what any of us here can add. You seem to have your questions answered to your satisfaction. If you need to know more, you'll ask him, right?
If he needs to know more about how you feel, he'll ask you, right?
Not sure I see a problem here. LOL.
 
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thanks. maybe over analyzing things?
 
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Probably. You gals tend to do that sometimes to a fault. Relax and enjoy your times with him. Live for the moment and act on things as they come, not in anticipation for the fall. Worrying too much will make your fears come true.
 
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tmay wrote :
thanks. maybe over analyzing things?
Maybe. You said you sensed there may have been more he wanted to say--why not ask him if that's the case? He may have held back for some reason or another, and maybe he just needs some encouragement. He may have some things he wants to discuss since this is now going to be a long distance relationship. But if not, then I'd just leave it at that.
 
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tmay wrote :
thanks. maybe over analyzing things?
Thats an understatement around here
 
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tmay is offline tmay Post #7  August 10,2009, 9:21am
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btw, its not a crime to date others? i haven't been in the dating scene for some time before this all developed and want to keep balanced. i'm amazed at all the questions that pop into my head now. are there rules for this??? the replies r gr8t )
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I really would not say anything to the guy about this. you are churning this around in your head and it might give off a wacko girl vibe to a guy. noottt suggesting that you are this, but all of these twisty mind bendy thoughts can sometimes sound that way to guys. less is better in this case esp since he is leaving the area. ldrs (not knowing the distance) are difficult, at best
 
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thanks again. good to read so many perspectives on this topic and others
 
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tmay wrote :
btw, its not a crime to date others? i haven't been in the dating scene for some time before this all developed and want to keep balanced. i'm amazed at all the questions that pop into my head now. are there rules for this??? the replies r gr8t )
As long as you and he don't have the "exclusive" talk then you should date others. And you should assume he will be too.
 
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