bdavie is offline bdavie Post #1  August 9,2009, 2:02pm
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So I called this girl Ive been out with twice last thurs night. In return, I got a text that night/morning at 1:40am saying she was away and had been trying to text my house all nite. I believe this. (She damaged her phone earlier in the week and lost all contacts, i called her from my house phone - she thght my house # was my cell - I know its true that her phone was damaged). I sent her a text back saying enjoy your trip.Soak up all the sun etc...


I didnt hear from her all weekend...she was away with friends of course.


I texted her today saying I hope she wasnt too burnt and asking when she was coming back and she told me she was on her way home and was about 2 towns away. I said she was welcome to stop by but otherwise catch up with me later that I wanted to hear all about the trip. She said that her friends and her friends kids were in the car but it was sweet of me to ask/offer. I said no worries "call me later". We have only been on 2 dates and she has not been to my house yet.


Here is the question: should I wait to see if she calls later or call her ?? I dont want to be pushy but I also think that by trying to be a bit of challenge I'm giving her a wishy washy idea.
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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #2  August 9,2009, 2:34pm
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You're trying to be a challenge to her?

I would let her settle in and call her tomorrow.
 
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #3  August 9,2009, 4:40pm
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It is her responsibility to call you, since she curtailed the call you made.

I see no harm in you calling again, however. If she blows you off a second time, that will prove she's not interested.
 
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You have made several attempts.... She has been on a trip - give her a chance to get herself together and wait and let her make the next call.
 
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She called, she said wanted to call while she had a second. She was walking to meet up with a friend for the night.


It was a good conversation.


I asked her out and she said the only day would be weds but that was a maybe. She said she would call me tomorrow when she knows her work schedule.

She is very hard to read and of course I'm sitting here thinking maybe she isnt interested and is trying to give me a hint.
 
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bdavie wrote :
She called, she said wanted to call while she had a second. She was walking to meet up with a friend for the night.


It was a good conversation.


I asked her out and she said the only day would be weds but that was a maybe. She said she would call me tomorrow when she knows her work schedule.

She is very hard to read and of course I'm sitting here thinking maybe she isnt interested and is trying to give me a hint.
Why is that so hard to read? So far, from what you said, she's held up to her word. She said she would call you later, and she did. If she says that she'll get back with you once she knows her work schedule, then why would you doubt? If she wanted to blow you off, she wouldn't have called you back. Give her a chance. Not to sound harsh or anything, but if you crowd her, you it could really be a turnoff. Sounds like she might be a good one for you. Practice a little patience and it all should work out just fine. Good luck.
 
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bdavie wrote :
She called, she said wanted to call while she had a second. She was walking to meet up with a friend for the night.


It was a good conversation.


I asked her out and she said the only day would be weds but that was a maybe. She said she would call me tomorrow when she knows her work schedule.

She is very hard to read and of course I'm sitting here thinking maybe she isnt interested and is trying to give me a hint.
I would wait and let her call. It's her move now. If she is a woman of her word she will call you back once she "knows her schedule" then you can go from there.
 
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Hmmmm there ARE girls out there that will say "I'll call you" if they aren't interested.

You sound like you are that interested in her, if she doesnt call you then call her.
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CreolePrincess wrote :
Why is that so hard to read? So far, from what you said, she's held up to her word. She said she would call you later, and she did. If she says that she'll get back with you once she knows her work schedule, then why would you doubt? If she wanted to blow you off, she wouldn't have called you back. Give her a chance. Not to sound harsh or anything, but if you crowd her, you it could really be a turnoff. Sounds like she might be a good one for you. Practice a little patience and it all should work out just fine. Good luck.
I have never figured out how to read you women. If I call a lot then I am screwed because I am crowding you or seem desperate and needy. If I don't call a lot then I am screwed because I did not call enough. Ain't no way to win
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I have never figured out how to read you women. If I call a lot then I am screwed because I am crowding you or seem desperate and needy. If I don't call a lot then I am screwed because I did not call enough. Ain't no way to win
Well women are screwed too. If we make ourselves available everytime a man calls then we are perceived as not to have a life and "too available," and if we aren't available everytime he calls, we have to be cheating or "not into him." I guess we're all screwed!
 
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