hmm... 2 + 2 = 6? Something doesn't add up.


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littlev is offline littlev Post #1  August 8,2009, 1:36am
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I have been open communicating with this guy on Eharmony... the other day he gives me his facebook account name to add him... much to my shock he is the opposite of what he appears to be on EH.

On EH he is a nice, funny sweet guy but on Facebook he is everything he said he doesn't want in a relationship, i.e. he's out every night, a little over opinionated compared to his emails... (i know its wrong to judge and I really do want to give the benefit of the doubt!)

In error, I found out he has Facebook groups to his name one calling him "the best player in the world" and one accusing him of being a "cheater and a bit of a player!" .... anyway... they are dated back to 2005 and I am not sure to assume these are all old or I'm setting myself upto being played/hurt/left feeling foolish!

What I don't get is why pay to join EH when your out to play, or is he looking for someone to settle with and just isnt letting his friends see whats under that party animal exterior?

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That equation sums it up pretty neatly, really...

If it doesn't add up by 50% of the actual total, stay away as far as you possibly can. Not worth the risk, I'd say.

Hope the next one works out better for you.
 
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littlev wrote :
I have been open communicating with this guy on Eharmony... the other day he gives me his facebook account name to add him... much to my shock he is the opposite of what he appears to be on EH.

On EH he is a nice, funny sweet guy but on Facebook he is everything he said he doesn't want in a relationship, i.e. he's out every night, a little over opinionated compared to his emails... (i know its wrong to judge and I really do want to give the benefit of the doubt!)

In error, I found out he has Facebook groups to his name one calling him "the best player in the world" and one accusing him of being a "cheater and a bit of a player!" .... anyway... they are dated back to 2005 and I am not sure to assume these are all old or I'm setting myself upto being played/hurt/left feeling foolish!

What I don't get is why pay to join EH when your out to play, or is he looking for someone to settle with and just isnt letting his friends see whats under that party animal exterior?

blah!
Even players want to find true love and settle down with "the one". If you don't believe me, read "The Game - Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists"
 
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
That equation sums it up pretty neatly, really...

If it doesn't add up by 50% of the actual total, stay away as far as you possibly can. Not worth the risk, I'd say.

Hope the next one works out better for you.
I know you're going to be shocked by this one, ICM...but I agree!

I'd be very leery of taking it any further, especially when so much of what you've seen on eH is so contradictory to what you are seeing on Facebook. Go with your gut on this one.
 
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I know you're going to be shocked by this one, ICM...but I agree!
What's even more shocking is that it happened more than once today!
 
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Even players want to find true love and settle down with "the one". If you don't believe me, read "The Game - Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists"
They don't sell this literary piece of work at my book store and I couldn't find it on amazon either. What am I to do now, Mr?
 
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Strange he gave you this information and access, isn't it? He's telling you who he is and wants to see if you are willing to play
littlev wrote :
I have been open communicating with this guy on Eharmony... the other day he gives me his facebook account name to add him... much to my shock he is the opposite of what he appears to be on EH.

On EH he is a nice, funny sweet guy but on Facebook he is everything he said he doesn't want in a relationship, i.e. he's out every night, a little over opinionated compared to his emails... (i know its wrong to judge and I really do want to give the benefit of the doubt!)

In error, I found out he has Facebook groups to his name one calling him "the best player in the world" and one accusing him of being a "cheater and a bit of a player!" .... anyway... they are dated back to 2005 and I am not sure to assume these are all old or I'm setting myself upto being played/hurt/left feeling foolish!

What I don't get is why pay to join EH when your out to play, or is he looking for someone to settle with and just isnt letting his friends see whats under that party animal exterior?

blah!
 
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littlev wrote :
I have been open communicating with this guy on Eharmony... the other day he gives me his facebook account name to add him... much to my shock he is the opposite of what he appears to be on EH.

On EH he is a nice, funny sweet guy but on Facebook he is everything he said he doesn't want in a relationship, i.e. he's out every night, a little over opinionated compared to his emails... (i know its wrong to judge and I really do want to give the benefit of the doubt!)

In error, I found out he has Facebook groups to his name one calling him "the best player in the world" and one accusing him of being a "cheater and a bit of a player!" .... anyway... they are dated back to 2005 and I am not sure to assume these are all old or I'm setting myself upto being played/hurt/left feeling foolish!

What I don't get is why pay to join EH when your out to play, or is he looking for someone to settle with and just isnt letting his friends see whats under that party animal exterior?

blah!
this is an amusing post in light of the "how do you know he isnt lying on his profile" thread.

you never have to worry about this sort of thing when:

you dont pursue him
you dont initiate initial contact (tell me.... did you do this?)
you dont have sex with him right away
you dont start paying for or chipping in on dates
you guard your heart and mind until you *know* that this guy is serious about you, and you guard it even then!
 
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Wiseman2 wrote :
Strange he gave you this information and access, isn't it? He's telling you who he is and wants to see if you are willing to play
I completely agree.
 
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littlev is offline littlev Post #10  August 8,2009, 8:56am
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Thanks all... yeah I do want to think he wants to change. I've not got in touch so basically if he gets in touch.... he gets in touch...

although we are from the same culture and upbringing so I know that sometimes being a macho player is just part of the "outside" persona that they have...

well I suppose time will tell !

thanks all.
 
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