Mature7 is offline Mature7 Post #1  August 6,2009, 8:07pm
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Ok so I love the guy I'm with but I get these random doubts that it won't work out.... is that normal? I never felt this way with anyone else.... He treats me great and always tells me how beautiful I am but somewhere inside something tells me its not true....
 
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Mature7 wrote :
Ok so I love the guy I'm with but I get these random doubts that it won't work out.... is that normal? I never felt this way with anyone else.... He treats me great and always tells me how beautiful I am but somewhere inside something tells me its not true....
Trust issues? is there any factual basis for your doubts, has he done anything or said anything or its it something about his behavior in the past that led you to your doubt?

Very little information you've given here. But yes it is normal to have doubt, when the trust is not there, relationship will crumble, soon or later.
 
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Is it that you doubt him? Or do you doubt yourself?
 
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Are you generally a self conscious person? Do you have low self esteem? What you're describing is usually a symptom of low self esteem. So if this is the case, yes it is normal.

If not, then you should ask yourself why you're doubting if it will work out or not. Is he doing anything that would give you a cue? Do you not get along so well? Tell us a little more and maybe we can help you better.
 
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Mature7 wrote :
Ok so I love the guy I'm with but I get these random doubts that it won't work out.... is that normal? I never felt this way with anyone else.... He treats me great and always tells me how beautiful I am but somewhere inside something tells me its not true....
Of course it's normal to have some doubts. Especially if the relationship is relatively new and your feelings are strong. You may be Mature but you sound young - nothing wrong with that at all.

If he treats you great and you feel happy, that's the most important part, so concetrate of this.Your relationship sounds solid (from the little information you provided here, of course).

But what's a little bit concerning is that you don't believe that you are beautiful. We all are. And I'm sure that you have some beautiful qualities about you as a person, as well as your lovely looks.

Beauty comes from within and it's also in the eyes of the beholder. Your boyfriend already beholds your inner and outer beauty, now it's your turn to behold your own beauty. And something tells me that once you start believing in your own beauty as a person and as a woman, your relationship doubts will gradually subside.

Good Luck!
 
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Wait and see if his actions match his words.
 
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Too good to be true? Telling everything you want to hear? Gut feeling things aren't right? He's a player.
Mature7 wrote :
Ok so I love the guy I'm with but I get these random doubts that it won't work out.... is that normal? I never felt this way with anyone else.... He treats me great and always tells me how beautiful I am but somewhere inside something tells me its not true....
 
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It's hard to say. It really depends on your past relationships, too. If you've had a long line of jerks, then sometimes the way a good one acts is so foreign that it's actually uncomfortable. I've dealt with that one lately and I'm having too retrain my instincts.

On the other hand, I never trust a man who tells me everything I want to hear. No normal guy does that unless he's full of it.

And I agree with Mr_Right. Actions speak louder than words, and they should match up with who he says he is.
 
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