Question - Does anyone believe that maybe there isn't someone for everyone?


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TiffanyDiamond is offline TiffanyDiamond Post #1  August 6,2009, 6:08pm
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I'm sure you all have heard the term "there is someone for everyone" many times. However, I see a lot of posts on this site where people are just not having any luck making a connection with someone they can have a real, lasting relationship with and they are feeling really lonely and hopeless. Made me think - Is there really someone for everyone or is that just something we are told to make us feel better and not so lonely? Any thoughts?
 
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Well, I'm not saying this to make anyone feel worse and more lonely, but I don't think there's someone for everyone. HOWEVER, if you are willing to settle for someone you don't have so much interest in, then I guess you could say there's someone for everyone. Me, I won't settle. The older I get, the more, not less, picky I get, although I am willing to compromise on a lot of things.
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When things are not going well..it is easy to start thinking that you will never meet that special person.

Is there someone for everyone or are there just people you would be very compatible with? I tend to think the later.

I stopped focusing on dating a couple years ago and just concentrated on myself. I went back to school, traveled...just set out to enjoy life.

I do have faith that I will meet someone I can spend the rest of my life with. It may not be in the way I imagined, and even if that does not happen..I am still focused on enjoying my life as much as possible.

People say things happen when you least expect it. If I stop focusing on finding the man of my dreams maybe he will become a reality.
 
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I do, and I do not see any problem with that. If you need to have someone to make you happy, then you should worry more about your emotional state than whether or not you will have someone.
 
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It's a matter choice, there is someone for you if you choose to believe it and there isn't if you choose not.

As far as who that someone is for you, it's about awareness, you might not even recognise when that person walks right past your life if you don't know about yourself and what you want.
 
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CJF wrote :
When things are not going well..it is easy to start thinking that you will never meet that special person.

Is there someone for everyone or are there just people you would be very compatible with? I tend to think the later.

I stopped focusing on dating a couple years ago and just concentrated on myself. I went back to school, traveled...just set out to enjoy life.

I do have faith that I will meet someone I can spend the rest of my life with. It may not be in the way I imagined, and even if that does not happen..I am still focused on enjoying my life as much as possible.

People say things happen when you least expect it. If I stop focusing on finding the man of my dreams maybe he will become a reality.
I agree CJF. I have never been one to just sit around and wait for anything to happen for me - and that includes putting my life on hold waiting for "the right man" to show up so I won't be alone. If that were the case my life would be nauseatingly boring and I would go nuts! Myself and several of my friends have talked about this topic and we all agree and have set out to just live our lives and try to enjoy ourselves because life is so short. That being said, I still wonder if I will be alone for the rest of my life. Well, not really alone because I have wonderful friends and a kookey but wonderful family - but I think you get what I mean.
 
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There is someone for everyone. That said there is no guarantee you will find he/she.

That is the real problem. They could be living 3000 miles away yet are your true soul mate.
 
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When I was 21 and experiencing my first true love (Emily; I still think about her a lot), I believed there was somebody out there for everyone. After having my heart broken about a dozen times, I have become very jaded, and think that most people just settle for somebody that they aren't really happy with (which is why the divorce rate is so high). So, no; I don't think there is necessarily somebody for me, and hence there isn't somebody for everyone.
 
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It sounds like you've got a great attitude, Tiffany, and I can't help but think that some lucky guy will find that attractive.

Having said that, though; no, I don't think there is someone for everyone. For some people, it is best if they remain single. On the flip side, I suspect that there are probably dozens of like-minded people who are potential mates, if both parties are amenable. (I'm not a believer in the whole "soul mate" thing). I am sure that will seem unromantic, but it's probably the truth.
 
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MarkInAustin wrote :
When I was 21 and experiencing my first true love (Emily; I still think about her a lot), I believed there was somebody out there for everyone. After having my heart broken about a dozen times, I have become very jaded, and think that most people just settle for somebody that they aren't really happy with (which is why the divorce rate is so high). So, no; I don't think there is necessarily somebody for me, and hence there isn't somebody for everyone.
MarkInAustin, I feel your pain. Sorry and big hug to you.
 
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