Luna1 is offline Luna1 Post #1  August 6,2009, 12:44pm
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I'm a little stuck. A first for me, one of my matches and I have been communication and it has gone extremely well. It's that time— to actually meet in person. There is physical distance but that doesn't seem to defer the fact that we are now at the point where he wants to meet so that we can know if the physical chemistry is there. Neither one of us wants to stay at this blissful state only to meet later and be disappointed.

The proposition of meeting has brought up some seriously scary feelings on my part. I'm deathly afraid that I will not be attracted to him. He only has a few photos up and I have already gathered by them that he has hidden the same feature in each. I was very bold in asking about this. He responded that while he has always been a little uncomfortable about this feature he thinks it hasn't coast him anything in the social circle.

However, we all know that if that were true then he wouldn't have hid it in the first place. We really, really connect outside of this. While I have not seen this feature fully I can tell by the hints in the photos that I will most likely not be happy when we meet in person.

I'm already feeling disappointed that such a great thing is going sour.

I DO NOT want to string him along. We have been really honest with each other so far. I want to be truthful about my concern. Any advice as to how I should say this to him?
 
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It sounds like he is trying to hide something so if you are that afraid/concerned I would ask him to send me a picture that doesn't hide that "feature." What's up with that anyway?
 
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That is the weirdness of online dating. ....... this pictures / chemistry thing. Go meet the guy if you really connect. The worst could happen is he's a nice guy, you have a nice time, so? best thing, the chemistry may be there in person, it's a chance you have to take to find out........
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I'm a little stuck. A first for me, one of my matches and I have been communication and it has gone extremely well. It's that time— to actually meet in person. There is physical distance but that doesn't seem to defer the fact that we are now at the point where he wants to meet so that we can know if the physical chemistry is there. Neither one of us wants to stay at this blissful state only to meet later and be disappointed.
The proposition of meeting has brought up some seriously scary feelings on my part. I'm deathly afraid that I will not be attracted to him. He only has a few photos up and I have already gathered by them that he has hidden the same feature in each. I was very bold in asking about this. He responded that while he has always been a little uncomfortable about this feature he thinks it hasn't coast him anything in the social circle.
However, we all know that if that were true then he wouldn't have hid it in the first place. We really, really connect outside of this. While I have not seen this feature fully I can tell by the hints in the photos that I will most likely not be happy when we meet in person.
I'm already feeling disappointed that such a great thing is going sour.
I DO NOT want to string him along. We have been really honest with each other so far. I want to be truthful about my concern. Any advice as to how I should say this to him?
 
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You could always ask him to send you a picture that does not hide this feature you are worried about. If you meet him you're going to see it anyway, so it really isn't an unreasonable request.
 
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You already have this posted on the dating thread...you might want to head over there to page two to see all of the responses you've already received!
 
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