delux269 is offline delux269 Post #1  August 4,2009, 12:10pm
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I seem to find it very, verey hard, if not impossible, for an attractive woman to take me seriously as a potential boyfriend. They seem to always never respond to my communication request on eHarmony, and in person attractive women never seem to be interested when I talk to them, then a minute later I will see them flirting with some of my better looking buddies. Do I have to bite the bullet and settle for a woman who is not attractive, or is there something I am missing and i need to do differently? I am told my everyone I know that I am a very nice guy.
 
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Hi delux269,
You have a very similar thread going elsewhere and quite a few people have responded. Check it out :-)
 
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It's time to hit the gym, pick out new stylish clothes, get contacts, a new haircut, and a attitude change.
 
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All sarcasm aside from my responses in your other post.

I'd say that the law of attraction is a subjective matter. Get a buddy whose tastes are different and have him point things out. Sometimes that love at first site has a "deer in headlights" effect.

Also, if it really means that much to you, I'd pay close attention to what those other guys are doing. Even if you can't look like them (tall, dark, dimples or some other physical trait), you could match their posture, their smile, their muscles, their clothes and anything else you can afford.

Of course, even I've told myself not to be a Shallow Hal. You need to see past a pretty face once in a while. It's crazy but I've met girls that originally were average or below average, but after going to school with them, working with them, or going on some kind of church group thing (building up a history being around them) suddenly they became more and more attractive as time went on.

Of course, at that point, you deal with the "is she just a friend" issue.
 
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Something I learned a number of years ago...

The most important thing when dealing with women (unless you have lots and lots of money) is self-confidence. You have to really like yourself and be confident in yourself. When you learn to do this you will attract women.
 
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Cleopatra wasn't the most beautiful queen in Egypt but because she was highly intelligent and confident, she had some of the most powerful men of Rome captured her by her spell.

Two friends of mine are gorgeous and successful women. Their husbands not necessarily the most handsome. Confidence is key.
 
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Mr_Right wrote :
It's time to hit the gym, pick out new stylish clothes, get contacts, a new haircut, and a attitude change.
That pretty much sums it up right there. Nobody likes, or wants to like, someone who comes off as saying "please like me."

Oh, and if you treat a woman like a friend, she will perceive you as one.
 
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Any time I hear variations on "settle" I see a person who does not understand one's market value, usually a direct result of not being out in the Real World enough. You've got to let water naturally seek its own level; get out socially, and not just clubs or bars or specifically to look for women.

Also, for women it's very much more about game; your looks are relatively unimportant. The vibe I get is that you're coming off as the desperate ("nice") guy - gals can spot that from 50 paces, and generally avoid it, romantically speaking.
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Well, since you seem to primarily classify women by their appearance ... don't be surprised that they do the same to you in return.
 
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[quote=delux269;698781]
I seem to find it very, verey hard, if not impossible, for an attractive woman to take me seriously as a potential boyfriend. They seem to always never respond to my communication request on eHarmony, and in person attractive women never seem to be interested when I talk to them, then a minute later I will see them flirting with some of my better looking buddies. Do I have to bite the bullet and settle for a woman who is not attractive, or is there something I am missing and i need to do differently? I am told my everyone I know that I am a very nice guy.

[quote=yeoww;700111]
You have a very similar thread going elsewhere and quite a few people have responded. Check it out

[quote=Mr_Right;700492]
It's time to hit the gym, pick out new stylish clothes, get contacts, a new haircut, and a attitude change.

[quote=DDjr;700641]dl,
The most important thing when dealing with women (unless you have lots and lots of money) is self-confidence. You have to really like yourself and be confident in yourself. When you learn to do this you will attract women.

[quote=Raw_Truth;701063]
Also, for women it's very much more about game; your looks are relatively unimportant. The vibe I get is that you're coming off as the desperate ("nice") guy - gals can spot that from 50 paces, and generally avoid it, romantically speaking.



I was one of those posting in your other thread. I remember working hard on my answer, too, so I won't waste my time here. But now that I see you want the "attractive" women instead of "attracting a nice woman" as your other post indicated, I have highlighted what I believe are the key points...
 
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