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bdavie is offline bdavie Post #1  August 2,2009, 9:56am
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I had a great first date last sunday. All things point to positive. I cant remember the last time I had a first but not a second date.

I called on weds night and left a message, I have gotten a call back.

Should I flush her number ? Need advice.
 
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bdavie wrote :
I had a great first date last sunday. All things point to positive. I cant remember the last time I had a first but not a second date.

I called on weds night and left a message, I have gotten a call back.

Should I flush her number ? Need advice.

Unless my eyes are playing mindtricks on me, why would you do that?
 
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bdavie wrote :
I had a great first date last sunday. All things point to positive. I cant remember the last time I had a first but not a second date.

I called on weds night and left a message, I have gotten a call back.

Should I flush her number ? Need advice.
Sure. Why not.


 
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bdavie is offline bdavie Post #4  August 2,2009, 10:23am
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I guess the real question is should I call again ??? Wouldnt she just call back if she is interested ??

I had no reason to think we wouldnt go out again but maybe she just isnt attracted to me.

I dont want to look like an idiot....maybe she wants to blow me off and I should take the hint.
 
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bdavie wrote :
I guess the real question is should I call again ??? Wouldnt she just call back if she is interested ??

I had no reason to think we wouldnt go out again but maybe she just isnt attracted to me.

I dont want to look like an idiot....maybe she wants to blow me off and I should take the hint.
Are you sure?
 
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My PERSONAL philosophy on this subject (and one that a lot of people I know share) is that in a situation such as this, you get 2 phone calls. The first is just a call (although sometimes I leave a message anyway) since most people will see you called (cell phones abound). The second is a phone call with a message. If no answer on the second call, you can pretty much hang it up unless you get a call back. I find that lots of people nowadays would rather just ignore contact with someone rather than have the confrontation of saying they're not interested. Do I agree? No. I'd just say I'm not interested but lots of people don't share my philosophy. So call again and leave a message and if she doesn't call back, that's probably your answer.
 
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Don't guess, who knows, maybe she didn't get your first message.., was busy with something unexpected?, Just call her back and ask her out again,... You will either get a date or the answer to your question....
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I guess the real question is should I call again ??? Wouldnt she just call back if she is interested ??
I had no reason to think we wouldnt go out again but maybe she just isnt attracted to me.
I dont want to look like an idiot....maybe she wants to blow me off and I should take the hint.
 
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Call her one more time, leave a message. And that's it; if she doesn't call you back, then you have your definite answer.
 
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bdavie wrote :
I had a great first date last sunday. All things point to positive. I cant remember the last time I had a first but not a second date.

I called on weds night and left a message, I have gotten a call back.

Should I flush her number ? Need advice.
Like one other poster said, two phone calls. Make sure you leave a message.

If she doesn't respond, you have your answer.
 
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bdavie wrote :
I had a great first date last sunday. All things point to positive. I cant remember the last time I had a first but not a second date.

I called on weds night and left a message, I have gotten a call back.

Should I flush her number ? Need advice.
Why did you wait until Wednesday to call? Maybe she interpreted your waiting 4 days as lack of interest...II'd follow up with one more call and then, if she doesn't respond, let it go.
 
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