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OverAnalyzer is offline OverAnalyzer Post #1  August 2,2009, 9:17am
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All these people that post - esp newbies - ask for advice and many offer heartfelt words of comfort and wisdom peppered with the occasional shot of sarcasm - what happens?

Do they take the advice? Do they ever come back to read our responses? Do they turn in their dating cards? What do you think? Do you care?

Inquiring minds want to know...
 
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #2  August 2,2009, 9:21am
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A few people do come back and tell what happened. A few don't come back right away, but will speak again of an event in a later thread.

If someone asked for advice, I am interested in hearing how their situation turned out.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
A few people do come back and tell what happened. A few don't come back right away, but will speak again of an event in a later thread.

If someone asked for advice, I am interested in hearing how their situation turned out.

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Individual situations are too variable, and too often lacking closure, to usefully gather data.

I simply make mental note of who comes with follow-up (more motivation to help them.)
 
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OverAnalyzer wrote :
All these people that post - esp newbies - ask for advice and many offer heartfelt words of comfort and wisdom peppered with the occasional shot of sarcasm - what happens?

Do they take the advice? Do they ever come back to read our responses? Do they turn in their dating cards? What do you think? Do you care?

Inquiring minds want to know...
My advice (serious advice, anyway) is usually directed at women. Most of them probably don't take it.

 
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OverAnalyzer wrote :
All these people that post - esp newbies - ask for advice and many offer heartfelt words of comfort and wisdom peppered with the occasional shot of sarcasm - what happens?

Do they take the advice? Do they ever come back to read our responses? Do they turn in their dating cards? What do you think? Do you care?

Inquiring minds want to know...
I'm interested in finding out how things turned out for them. Whether they have chosen to take my advice or not doesn't really matter to me because mine may not be the best for their situation. However, I do care about their situation and whether or not it worked out for them, and sometimes I find myself wondering, as well.
 
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I also think a lot of them never respond back because they ask this question that the majority of us here think is absolutely ridiculous such as "shall I stay with my abusive, married boyfriend who steals from me?" (example) and yet, somehow think we should say "oh, he's a nice guy, you should give him another chance......"

So when they don't get the answer they want to hear they just skulk back to where they came from.

Or they are so ashamed when we tell it like it is when they couldn't see the forest for the trees.
 
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I also think a lot of them never respond back because they ask this question that the majority of us here think is absolutely ridiculous such as "shall I stay with my abusive, married boyfriend who steals from me?" (example) and yet, somehow think we should say "oh, he's a nice guy, you should give him another chance......"

So when they don't get the answer they want to hear they just skulk back to where they came from.

Or they are so ashamed when we tell it like it is when they couldn't see the forest for the trees.
I agree with your take on this.
And I also hope that even in those cases, the advice offered here is taken into consideration in their future decisions and actions. Sometimes people need to be shocked back into reality. And athough it is never my personally preferred method of dealing with people in general, under certain exceptional circumstances I would refer to the ends justifying the means. Or so I hope, truly.
 
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Josh_81 is offline Josh_81 Post #9  August 3,2009, 10:02pm
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Yes, I have taken advice from several members on here. I'm still a newbie; hopefully, one day I'll be able to encourage others.

Right now, I'm still sorting out what people have said and what the recent books I've been reading have mentioned in terms of personal growth.

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On an unrelated note, why does it say a moderator has to approve all my messages?
 
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[quote=Icouldwriteabook;697997]
I also think a lot of them never respond back because they ask this question that the majority of us here think is absolutely ridiculous such as "shall I stay with my abusive, married boyfriend who steals from me?" (example) and yet, somehow think we should say "oh, he's a nice guy, you should give him another chance......"

So when they don't get the answer they want to hear they just skulk back to where they came from.

LOL

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On an unrelated note, why does it say a moderator has to approve all my messages?

They want to make sure you're not telling me where to go in no uncertain terms!




I do wonder sometimes. Sometimes not. Sometimes on these threads I see posts that appear to be from what I call Damaged Souls, and I wonder if they're ever going to manage to be happy. That bothers me.
 
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