marialove is offline marialove Post #1  July 30,2009, 7:00am
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Hello, I am a 39yr old female who is asked out on dates by 23yrs old is that way to young? I know that I look young but how do we know when is the cut off age?
 
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It depends on what you are looking for. If you are looking for short term, then by all means date the 23 year old. If you are looking at long term and even marriage, try to stay within 10 years at the outside. Five years is nothing, I wouldn't even consider that an age difference to be honest.

These rules go out the window from a guys perspective. Here is mine:
I'm 25, I would not consider marriage to a 35 year old. I would definitely consider someone who is within seven years of my age to be marriage potential. Most 45 year old men would love to find a match in a 21 year old woman(at the same time, they are on high alert for gold diggers). VERY few 21 year old men would want to marry a 45 year old woman.

There are exceptions to every rule. This 23 year old guy COULD be the exception, but the odds are against you. He is most likely trolling for a cougar.


I am very glad that you posted this topic, it caused me to really consider the subject. My previous age range was 18 to 29, it is now 18 to 32.
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The formula is half your age plus 7 years. In your case that would be 26 to 27 is the youngest.

However, you can throw all the math out the window and base it on what you and he are comfortable with. Do these 23 year old guys know that you are 39? Are you interested in dating a 23 year old guy (of course it really depends on the individual), do you have common interests, etc?

FWIW last year I had a 24 year old ask me out, we actually had a lot in common. I have found that there is a bigger "age gap" with girls that are in their mid 40s.
 
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It's, of course, a personal decision.

For me, I am 40 and have a 13 year old daughter. I can't feel comfortable dating someone who is closer to her age than mine. I communicated on match.com for a while with a guy who was about 25 and he asked several times to meet me. When I realized how old (young!) he was, I told him that I wouldn't feel comfortable dating him. We still talk sometimes as friends.
 
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I am so happy that you guys have given me something to think about. The 23yr is a fireman and is mature. I have always thought that most 20-25yrs old were very inmature. I have been dating a lot of guys who are my age and they seem to just not know what they want or are afraid of getting hurt so they back away...
Again, Thanks for giving me some advice on this matter.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
The formula is half your age plus 7 years. In your case that would be 26 to 27 is the youngest.

However, you can throw all the math out the window and base it on what you and he are comfortable with. Do these 23 year old guys know that you are 39? Are you interested in dating a 23 year old guy (of course it really depends on the individual), do you have common interests, etc?

FWIW last year I had a 24 year old ask me out, we actually had a lot in common. I have found that there is a bigger "age gap" with girls that are in their mid 40s.
Generational gaps can posse issues if the individuals don't have a lot they can relate to.
 
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marialove wrote :
Hello, I am a 39yr old female who is asked out on dates by 23yrs old is that way to young? I know that I look young but how do we know when is the cut off age?
According to my personal maths book -
Too Young = Immature.

Age is nothing but an objectively measured number.
Maturity is subjectively REAL.

There are certainly trends observed with passing of time and aging. That said, there are NO RULES in my personal maths books, only theories, which can be proven or disproved.

Pesonally, I have certainly met some 20-something men in life, who were much more mature and REAL than some 40-something men. And vice versa, of course.

If the connection feels real and believable to you personally, it's worth exploring further, at the very least, regardless what objectively numeric evidence suggests.

Good Luck!
 
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